People suffer from extremely busy days that usually lead to extremely "busy" nights. Instead of going to sleep, the vast majority of today's working professionals select to do something else, like watching TV until the early morning hours instead of sleeping properly, due to stress and anxiety problems. But, one should keep in mind that sleep is a necessity, not a luxury. Having a good night's sleep is just as crucial to maintaining wellness as is following a healthy diet and performing the proper amount of exercise.
Apart from being a healing process, sleep is also an invigorating one. Researchers examining the human brain while asleep have found that it is cycling through three stages of sleep; light, deep and REM. During these stages the human organism gets restored, it rejuvenates and it also becomes stronger. In addition, the human immune system gets recharged, as cells grow and repair themselves, and the human body conserves energy that will be needed later while a person is again awake.
Unfortunately, due to the heavy schedules and the daily problems people have to face, many do not value their bodies' sleeping needs. Nowadays, as everything stays open later than in the past, many individuals select to sacrifice their night's sleep for another dance at the local club, a late-night movie, a work project due or a few more hours of exercise in the gym. Instead of investing this time available to sleep and provide to their organism time to heal, people prefer to do other activities that seem more important or interesting. What they may not realize is that lack of sleep takes a toll on their mental and physical well-being. According to various studies, like the one the National Sleep Foundation performs frequently, even minimal sleep loss has a profoundly detrimental impact on mood, cognition, performance, productivity, communication skills, accident rates and general health status. Thus, it is important for people to know that for optimal functioning throughout the day, the average adult needs between seven to nine hours of sleep during the night.
But, some people lack their normal sleeping patterns not because of choice, but due to a condition. Million of people worldwide for example, suffer from insomnia today. For these people, using medication-whether based on a doctor's prescription or not-is crucial to aid their night's sleep. Thus, if one suspects that the problems she or he has sleeping could be linked to a health condition like insomnia, it is imperative to visit a doctor's office, if the following tips do not bring sleep back into their lives.
- Avoid caffeinated food and beverages, like coffee, teas, chocolate, and soft drinks, for at least three hours before bedtime. Instead try a cup of warm milk.
- Exercise regularly, but do not perform any workout before bedtime for at least three hours.
- Check the mattress and be sure it supports your whole body. Flip it periodically.
- Develop a ritual before bedtime and perform it daily. Warm baths, reading, listening to soft calming music, are some of the things that can relax your mind and let it rest.
- Sleep in a quiet and comfortable room. Noise, light, temperature can reduce your sleep duration and quality.
- Go to bed and wake up the same time every day. When your sleep cycle has a regular rhythm you will feel better.
About The Author
Kadence Buchanan writes articles for http://letstalkaboutbeauty.com/ - In addition, Kadence also writes articles for http://tipsforgardening.net/ and http://ipetcentral.net/.
Thursday, July 24, 2008
Is Beauty Past 40 Possible? by: Susan Megge
Is beauty past the age of 40 possible? Of course it is; why do you ask? My guess is that you’re a woman in your 40’s (or perhaps approaching 40) and you’ve recently noticed some changes in your physical appearance. Maybe you’ve gained some weight, or perhaps you’re starting to notice fine lines around your eyes and mouth. The skin on your chest, arms or legs appears thinner and perhaps has the consistency of crepe paper. In addition to the changes in your physical appearance, you may have also noticed that you’re more easily tired out than you were a few years ago.
So now you’re wondering if you’ll ever be able to re-gain a youthful appearance. Well, that’s up to you; if you have no desire to put forth a little effort so that you will feel and look both young and energized, the answer is probably “no.” If, however, you badly want to feel and look your very best during this next phase of your life, and you’re willing to make a few lifestyle changes, then yes – most definitely – you will re-gain your youthful appearance and have the energy you had a few years prior.
The first step to a healthier, happier and more beautiful you is making an attitude adjustment, if necessary. It’s important to realize that you can be anything you want, and age shouldn’t be a deterrent; know that you’re a capable and mature woman whose goals can be accomplished if you’re determined enough to make some necessary changes.
If your goal is to lose weight, it’s crucial that you understand the link between physical activity and weight loss. You see, cutting calories is no longer enough to have a lean, toned and healthy body. This is due to the fact that as you get older, your body is working hard to convert your consumed calories into fat to make up for the declining levels of estrogen you’re experiencing as you approach menopause. You absolutely need muscle to burn calories and gain some tone, therefore, it is a necessity to exercise regularly, incorporating weight training into your workout routine.
If you’re feeling sluggish, no doubt exercise is going to give you so very much energy, but it’s also important to treat your body well by consuming foods that are healthy, such as fruits, dark leafy green vegetables and whole grains. Avoid white rice, potatoes and white bread, which can result in additional fat accumulation.
By treating your body well – through exercise and diet – your skin will also benefit and won’t sag quite as much as you begin to build muscle. As for the fine lines you may be noticing, there are so very many products available that will easily reduce the appearance of wrinkles, without necessitating the need for surgical or cosmetic procedures.
You see, you need not accept some of the changes that naturally occur as you get older. It is up to you to take care of your body, and by doing so you will be happy, healthy, fit and beautiful. I know from personal experience that anything is possible if you’re determined enough. Use your maturity – and the confidence that comes with it – to your advantage by accomplishing those goals which you set for yourself.
About The Author
Susan Megge is the founder of http://www.40isbeautiful.com, a website designed to assist mature women as they approach and experience menopause. Susan started experiencing symptoms of perimenopause several years ago and researched various avenues to deal with these symptoms naturally. This led to her discovery that menopause can be a very manageable, and even wonderful time in a woman's life. Susan Megge is the author of "Being Beautiful Beyond 40", a book dedicated to helping women to be inspired, confident and beautiful as they approach menopause.
So now you’re wondering if you’ll ever be able to re-gain a youthful appearance. Well, that’s up to you; if you have no desire to put forth a little effort so that you will feel and look both young and energized, the answer is probably “no.” If, however, you badly want to feel and look your very best during this next phase of your life, and you’re willing to make a few lifestyle changes, then yes – most definitely – you will re-gain your youthful appearance and have the energy you had a few years prior.
The first step to a healthier, happier and more beautiful you is making an attitude adjustment, if necessary. It’s important to realize that you can be anything you want, and age shouldn’t be a deterrent; know that you’re a capable and mature woman whose goals can be accomplished if you’re determined enough to make some necessary changes.
If your goal is to lose weight, it’s crucial that you understand the link between physical activity and weight loss. You see, cutting calories is no longer enough to have a lean, toned and healthy body. This is due to the fact that as you get older, your body is working hard to convert your consumed calories into fat to make up for the declining levels of estrogen you’re experiencing as you approach menopause. You absolutely need muscle to burn calories and gain some tone, therefore, it is a necessity to exercise regularly, incorporating weight training into your workout routine.
If you’re feeling sluggish, no doubt exercise is going to give you so very much energy, but it’s also important to treat your body well by consuming foods that are healthy, such as fruits, dark leafy green vegetables and whole grains. Avoid white rice, potatoes and white bread, which can result in additional fat accumulation.
By treating your body well – through exercise and diet – your skin will also benefit and won’t sag quite as much as you begin to build muscle. As for the fine lines you may be noticing, there are so very many products available that will easily reduce the appearance of wrinkles, without necessitating the need for surgical or cosmetic procedures.
You see, you need not accept some of the changes that naturally occur as you get older. It is up to you to take care of your body, and by doing so you will be happy, healthy, fit and beautiful. I know from personal experience that anything is possible if you’re determined enough. Use your maturity – and the confidence that comes with it – to your advantage by accomplishing those goals which you set for yourself.
About The Author
Susan Megge is the founder of http://www.40isbeautiful.com, a website designed to assist mature women as they approach and experience menopause. Susan started experiencing symptoms of perimenopause several years ago and researched various avenues to deal with these symptoms naturally. This led to her discovery that menopause can be a very manageable, and even wonderful time in a woman's life. Susan Megge is the author of "Being Beautiful Beyond 40", a book dedicated to helping women to be inspired, confident and beautiful as they approach menopause.
Better Sex Tips for Women by: Leah Holden
A good amount of pleasurable sexual act is undeniably one of the most important components which helps to build and maintain a successful and rewarding relationship. In most cases, good sex speaks louder than words when it comes down to love and intimacy between both partners.
Both partners are equally responsible for giving the others a total sexual pleasure. It is very easy sometimes for a woman to think it is her man's responsibility to give her sexual pleasure and to make her come. From time to time, certain women would also have the idea that they should not be too wild in bed, as this might give their partner a sense of insecurity! This is a total myth and one which should be addressed immediately if she ever hopes to have a totally satisfying relationship!
Women sure can be charming by the way they present themselves and also by the way they dress up. But, men like women who are also great in bed. Men like women who take the initiative and are confident in their sexual act. Men like women who give them complete pleasure and satisfaction at the end of the sexual act and they themselves should feel satisfied with their partners.
It is often said that only when women have 7 times the pleasure as men that women can reach an orgasm. This is totally wrong! The truth is, a woman can have no orgasm but that does not mean she is not satisfied with the sexual experience. At the same time, a woman may have multiple orgasms. The ultimate aim for a woman would be to satisfy her partner and herself.
A woman should devise new ways to excite her man in the beginning and get him involved completely in the sexual act. She can also gift herself or her man sex videos. This is certainly going to turn both of them on. Sex videos are a great resource to learn the finer and more beautiful nuances of sex. Videos also help you learn different better sex positions so that sex does not become a monotonous act.
A better sex tips for women would be to get stimulated in the beginning. Performing sex just for the sake of doing it won't bring in any enthusiasm and pleasure. The most important part is to be you throughout the whole sexual act.
Women should be as flexible as possible in the whole sexual experience. Try out different things to excite your partner. Like, tying a handkerchief around his eyes and then slowly running your fingers on his body or, you can write erotic stories and then narrate them to your partner in order to stimulate him and respond to your demands.
Communication, both verbal and sexual is another important aspect which help to improve your love life. Tell your partner how comfortable you feel in his arms and thank him for the great sexual experience. Tell him that you would like to take the fantastic journey as much as you can. This is sure going to build a stronger sexual bond between you and your partner.
You can also create an environment to excite your partner like lighting candles in the room, keeping the room dark, playing soft love songs which you both enjoy and so on.
At the end of the day, it is a matter of communication, both verbal and sexual, that is going to make your relationship works. Be selfless and live for the moment for each other.
About The Author
Leah Holden is The "Better Sex Expert". Leah's mission is sharing her vast array of sexual knowledge with individuals and couples. To spice up your sex life, please visit Leah's blog, http://better--sex.blogspot.com
Both partners are equally responsible for giving the others a total sexual pleasure. It is very easy sometimes for a woman to think it is her man's responsibility to give her sexual pleasure and to make her come. From time to time, certain women would also have the idea that they should not be too wild in bed, as this might give their partner a sense of insecurity! This is a total myth and one which should be addressed immediately if she ever hopes to have a totally satisfying relationship!
Women sure can be charming by the way they present themselves and also by the way they dress up. But, men like women who are also great in bed. Men like women who take the initiative and are confident in their sexual act. Men like women who give them complete pleasure and satisfaction at the end of the sexual act and they themselves should feel satisfied with their partners.
It is often said that only when women have 7 times the pleasure as men that women can reach an orgasm. This is totally wrong! The truth is, a woman can have no orgasm but that does not mean she is not satisfied with the sexual experience. At the same time, a woman may have multiple orgasms. The ultimate aim for a woman would be to satisfy her partner and herself.
A woman should devise new ways to excite her man in the beginning and get him involved completely in the sexual act. She can also gift herself or her man sex videos. This is certainly going to turn both of them on. Sex videos are a great resource to learn the finer and more beautiful nuances of sex. Videos also help you learn different better sex positions so that sex does not become a monotonous act.
A better sex tips for women would be to get stimulated in the beginning. Performing sex just for the sake of doing it won't bring in any enthusiasm and pleasure. The most important part is to be you throughout the whole sexual act.
Women should be as flexible as possible in the whole sexual experience. Try out different things to excite your partner. Like, tying a handkerchief around his eyes and then slowly running your fingers on his body or, you can write erotic stories and then narrate them to your partner in order to stimulate him and respond to your demands.
Communication, both verbal and sexual is another important aspect which help to improve your love life. Tell your partner how comfortable you feel in his arms and thank him for the great sexual experience. Tell him that you would like to take the fantastic journey as much as you can. This is sure going to build a stronger sexual bond between you and your partner.
You can also create an environment to excite your partner like lighting candles in the room, keeping the room dark, playing soft love songs which you both enjoy and so on.
At the end of the day, it is a matter of communication, both verbal and sexual, that is going to make your relationship works. Be selfless and live for the moment for each other.
About The Author
Leah Holden is The "Better Sex Expert". Leah's mission is sharing her vast array of sexual knowledge with individuals and couples. To spice up your sex life, please visit Leah's blog, http://better--sex.blogspot.com
How to Communicate Better in 3 Simple Steps
Do you ever leave conversations at work wondering why you bothered opening your mouth? Do you sometimes wonder how many times you have to tell somebody something in order for them to get it right? Do you feel that just don’t listen? If so, then perhaps you need to know how to communicate better.
Communication failure is one of the biggest problems faced by businesses today, especially by their managers whose job it is to solve these communication problems; if you learn how to communicate better you can prevent these communication difficulties happening at all.
You know you are heading for communication problems when it appears that the other person has stopped listening to you even before you have finished talking. You get the hint when you can’t attract everyones attention when you speak at meetings or when you are not getting anything back from the other person with whom you are attempting to have a conversation.
You can’t blame other people for this and you can’t change the way that people listen to you; you need to improve your own communication skills.
1. Pause for thought
People are only capable of listening for so long. That attention span becomes shorter if they disagree with you or become confused, so when you see your audience’s eyes glazing over, you know it’s time to stop talking. Hopefully you will have stopped before that point. If you really want to communicate better, you have to listen too. Find out what other people are thinking; not only is that the polite thing to do but it also enables you to find out what people do not understand or what the resistances are to what you are saying.
2. Keep to the point
State your points clearly and simply with no mistakes in order to be easily understood. Signal what you are going to talk about from your very first sentence by stating your aim right away. Then the rest of your talk should be the way you expand upon it and illustrate your point of view. You can ask for feedback later or allow brainstorming of ideas if you wish, but make your point clearly first to avoid confusion. At the end, you should summarize any decisions that are made and make each person’s responsibilities for action clear. Make sure each person that needs to do something after the communication has a SMART target.
3. Watch your tone
You should speak to others as you wish them to speak to you, without arrogance, hostility or sarcasm. Make sure you speak loud enough to be heard but not so loud that your tone appears aggressive. Speak with authority, having thought out your words; you will be much more credible to your audience. If you have a strong regional accent you should try to soften that and make your dialect and accent more standard, to avoid confusing your audience who may not be from the same region.
You don’t have to neutralize your accent completely as an accent can be very endearing, but you need to make sure the way you speak is standardized enough to be understood by others.
You need to learn how to communicate better because communicating well is the best way to ensure that you are listened to and understood by others.
About The Author Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to Developing Communication Confidence. This report reveals the secret strategies all high achievers use to communicate with charm and impact. Apply now because it is available for a limited time only at: http://www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com/report.htm
Communication failure is one of the biggest problems faced by businesses today, especially by their managers whose job it is to solve these communication problems; if you learn how to communicate better you can prevent these communication difficulties happening at all.
You know you are heading for communication problems when it appears that the other person has stopped listening to you even before you have finished talking. You get the hint when you can’t attract everyones attention when you speak at meetings or when you are not getting anything back from the other person with whom you are attempting to have a conversation.
You can’t blame other people for this and you can’t change the way that people listen to you; you need to improve your own communication skills.
1. Pause for thought
People are only capable of listening for so long. That attention span becomes shorter if they disagree with you or become confused, so when you see your audience’s eyes glazing over, you know it’s time to stop talking. Hopefully you will have stopped before that point. If you really want to communicate better, you have to listen too. Find out what other people are thinking; not only is that the polite thing to do but it also enables you to find out what people do not understand or what the resistances are to what you are saying.
2. Keep to the point
State your points clearly and simply with no mistakes in order to be easily understood. Signal what you are going to talk about from your very first sentence by stating your aim right away. Then the rest of your talk should be the way you expand upon it and illustrate your point of view. You can ask for feedback later or allow brainstorming of ideas if you wish, but make your point clearly first to avoid confusion. At the end, you should summarize any decisions that are made and make each person’s responsibilities for action clear. Make sure each person that needs to do something after the communication has a SMART target.
3. Watch your tone
You should speak to others as you wish them to speak to you, without arrogance, hostility or sarcasm. Make sure you speak loud enough to be heard but not so loud that your tone appears aggressive. Speak with authority, having thought out your words; you will be much more credible to your audience. If you have a strong regional accent you should try to soften that and make your dialect and accent more standard, to avoid confusing your audience who may not be from the same region.
You don’t have to neutralize your accent completely as an accent can be very endearing, but you need to make sure the way you speak is standardized enough to be understood by others.
You need to learn how to communicate better because communicating well is the best way to ensure that you are listened to and understood by others.
About The Author Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to Developing Communication Confidence. This report reveals the secret strategies all high achievers use to communicate with charm and impact. Apply now because it is available for a limited time only at: http://www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com/report.htm
Change Means Action
"Progress is a nice word. But change is its motivator. And change has its enemies." - Robert Kennedy
Change does have enemies and Robert Kennedy knew that truth and paid for it with his blood. Change can be dangerous. That is why our natural instinct is to stay the course; stay put; avoid trying something new; leaving well enough alone; being safe; and I could mention another twenty or so excuses. If you are the type that wants to stay in your comfort zone, you will never experience the immense joy that comes from living. In order to succeed we must take risks and that means we have to change. Robert Kennedy said this in the context of politics. He referred to making progress as a nation. The only way to make progress as a nation is to change our point of view, to change the way we govern ourselves, to change certain laws that are unfair, and change the way we deal with the bad guys.
But his words can apply to any aspect of life, not just politics. In my career as a trainer I can say that change is the one thing that is needed the most and done the least. I have seen people go way out of their way just to avoid change. I trained adults in job readiness skills. Let me tell you that there were times I couldn't even get an adult to change their seat after 20 minutes of being seated in class. That is how ridiculous we can get about change. We all need to train ourselves to be more open. But it goes further than that.
Change is an action word and that means we need to act if we are going to progress. Change is not a theoretical practice of the mind, it implies real physical movement. For example, we may say that we have changed our attitude towards someone, but unless that is followed up by an action towards that certain person, they are only shallow words. Change means to repent. I instantly scare people away as soon as I say that because of the religious overtones. Well you can apply this to religion if you like. All I am saying is when someone says to you to repent, it simply means to change what you are doing. Change requires 3 things. The first is to recognize the need to change. The second is you actually do the action that is required. The third is you maintain the new course of action. Those happen to be the same three things involved in repentance. They say that recognizing that you need to change is half the battle and that is so true in my experience. The changing part is actually a lot less difficult to do than the first part which again is recognizing that you need to change. The final part is easy. It just requires that you keep on doing the new action over and over again. The second part in the middle means you must turn around and do something different to prove that what you recognized as needed to be done will be done. Change is empowering no matter how small it is as long as it is positive. Today, why not give change a chance and perform an action that you know needs to be done in your life. You will be gratified and empowered when you do it!
About The Author John Cyr, is a retired workforce development trainer and motivational consultant who publishes articles and editorials under the pen-name Cyreous. He advocates transformative learning as the key learning method for trainers and educators and shares this information at http://www.cyreousquotes.com
Change does have enemies and Robert Kennedy knew that truth and paid for it with his blood. Change can be dangerous. That is why our natural instinct is to stay the course; stay put; avoid trying something new; leaving well enough alone; being safe; and I could mention another twenty or so excuses. If you are the type that wants to stay in your comfort zone, you will never experience the immense joy that comes from living. In order to succeed we must take risks and that means we have to change. Robert Kennedy said this in the context of politics. He referred to making progress as a nation. The only way to make progress as a nation is to change our point of view, to change the way we govern ourselves, to change certain laws that are unfair, and change the way we deal with the bad guys.
But his words can apply to any aspect of life, not just politics. In my career as a trainer I can say that change is the one thing that is needed the most and done the least. I have seen people go way out of their way just to avoid change. I trained adults in job readiness skills. Let me tell you that there were times I couldn't even get an adult to change their seat after 20 minutes of being seated in class. That is how ridiculous we can get about change. We all need to train ourselves to be more open. But it goes further than that.
Change is an action word and that means we need to act if we are going to progress. Change is not a theoretical practice of the mind, it implies real physical movement. For example, we may say that we have changed our attitude towards someone, but unless that is followed up by an action towards that certain person, they are only shallow words. Change means to repent. I instantly scare people away as soon as I say that because of the religious overtones. Well you can apply this to religion if you like. All I am saying is when someone says to you to repent, it simply means to change what you are doing. Change requires 3 things. The first is to recognize the need to change. The second is you actually do the action that is required. The third is you maintain the new course of action. Those happen to be the same three things involved in repentance. They say that recognizing that you need to change is half the battle and that is so true in my experience. The changing part is actually a lot less difficult to do than the first part which again is recognizing that you need to change. The final part is easy. It just requires that you keep on doing the new action over and over again. The second part in the middle means you must turn around and do something different to prove that what you recognized as needed to be done will be done. Change is empowering no matter how small it is as long as it is positive. Today, why not give change a chance and perform an action that you know needs to be done in your life. You will be gratified and empowered when you do it!
About The Author John Cyr, is a retired workforce development trainer and motivational consultant who publishes articles and editorials under the pen-name Cyreous. He advocates transformative learning as the key learning method for trainers and educators and shares this information at http://www.cyreousquotes.com
Identifying Your Dreams and Desires
Writing your intentions down is critical to your success. Writing has a magic ability to crystallize your intention and also provides a great method to place great amounts of focus and attention upon your desires.
Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich believed that writing your intentions down was one of the most critical stages in the manifestation process. Without it, one would fail to achieve the desire.
At first glance, identifying your desires sounds like a very easy task. Most would say, “I want more money,” or “I want a bigger home.” These are perfect desires to have, yet they lack any substantial detail. For example, let’s say for a moment that you do manifest a bigger home, but this new home you manifest does not have a kitchen. A very basic necessity to any home, yet because you didn’t define it, you weren’t given it. Or perhaps the home you manifest is bigger, but it requires more work to be done and isn’t what you want.
As soon as you give birth to a new desire, the Law of Attraction immediately begins working in your favour. As you begin to define the details of your desire, the Law of Attraction responds accordingly to incorporate your new asking.
The best way to get involved with the specifics of your desires and to determine exactly what you really want is by making an intention list. An intention list is as it sounds, a list of everything you want, dream of or desire.
You’ll probably want to make many intention lists, but for now focus on one desire per list. Grab a sheet of paper and title the page with your desire. Next, draw a line down the middle making two sections. On the right hand side, start listing everything that you do not want. We are conditioned to focus upon the negative aspects of a situation instead of the positives, so identifying what you don’t want should be a breeze!
Let’s say your desire is a new relationship. You begin to list everything that you do not want, such as:
* Spending night’s home by myself * Doing all of the cooking and cleaning on my own * Someone who watches the football all of the time * A poor listener * Not very romantic
On the left hand side of the page, you then write the polar opposite to what you said you didn’t want.
Not very romantic >> becomes >> Romantic & loving A poor listener >> becomes >> Listens to my suggestions
By focussing on what you do want, instead of what you don’t want you are able to tell the Law of Attraction in detail how you want your desire to be.
Now that you’ve got your list, make good use out of it. Grab a new sheet of paper and write out all of those positive things that you want. We no longer need those old negatives dislikes in our life, so it’s best you throw that old piece of paper in the trash.
With your new list of positive aspects around your desire, place the list somewhere that you will look often. Maybe you could put it in your bathroom, bedroom, toilet, office or kitchen? Or perhaps you will check your handbag or wallet more often? Put the list where you will see it frequently. At least twice a day read your intentions list to yourself.
What you want to do now is to really get into the feeling as if you’ve already got your desire with all of the details you’ve specified. This can be as long or as short a process as you make it to be – as long as you’re feeling the feelings as already having it then your work is complete.
You will quickly discover that an intention list will be something you always want to keep around. They are great fun to write, fun to read, and most importantly, all of that fun will eventually transmute into manifestation!
About The Author Gary Evans
Manifesting Reality Isn't Hard Work After All.
Get your free report on manifesting miracles right now by visiting: http://www.ManifestMiracle.com/free/
Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich believed that writing your intentions down was one of the most critical stages in the manifestation process. Without it, one would fail to achieve the desire.
At first glance, identifying your desires sounds like a very easy task. Most would say, “I want more money,” or “I want a bigger home.” These are perfect desires to have, yet they lack any substantial detail. For example, let’s say for a moment that you do manifest a bigger home, but this new home you manifest does not have a kitchen. A very basic necessity to any home, yet because you didn’t define it, you weren’t given it. Or perhaps the home you manifest is bigger, but it requires more work to be done and isn’t what you want.
As soon as you give birth to a new desire, the Law of Attraction immediately begins working in your favour. As you begin to define the details of your desire, the Law of Attraction responds accordingly to incorporate your new asking.
The best way to get involved with the specifics of your desires and to determine exactly what you really want is by making an intention list. An intention list is as it sounds, a list of everything you want, dream of or desire.
You’ll probably want to make many intention lists, but for now focus on one desire per list. Grab a sheet of paper and title the page with your desire. Next, draw a line down the middle making two sections. On the right hand side, start listing everything that you do not want. We are conditioned to focus upon the negative aspects of a situation instead of the positives, so identifying what you don’t want should be a breeze!
Let’s say your desire is a new relationship. You begin to list everything that you do not want, such as:
* Spending night’s home by myself * Doing all of the cooking and cleaning on my own * Someone who watches the football all of the time * A poor listener * Not very romantic
On the left hand side of the page, you then write the polar opposite to what you said you didn’t want.
Not very romantic >> becomes >> Romantic & loving A poor listener >> becomes >> Listens to my suggestions
By focussing on what you do want, instead of what you don’t want you are able to tell the Law of Attraction in detail how you want your desire to be.
Now that you’ve got your list, make good use out of it. Grab a new sheet of paper and write out all of those positive things that you want. We no longer need those old negatives dislikes in our life, so it’s best you throw that old piece of paper in the trash.
With your new list of positive aspects around your desire, place the list somewhere that you will look often. Maybe you could put it in your bathroom, bedroom, toilet, office or kitchen? Or perhaps you will check your handbag or wallet more often? Put the list where you will see it frequently. At least twice a day read your intentions list to yourself.
What you want to do now is to really get into the feeling as if you’ve already got your desire with all of the details you’ve specified. This can be as long or as short a process as you make it to be – as long as you’re feeling the feelings as already having it then your work is complete.
You will quickly discover that an intention list will be something you always want to keep around. They are great fun to write, fun to read, and most importantly, all of that fun will eventually transmute into manifestation!
About The Author Gary Evans
Manifesting Reality Isn't Hard Work After All.
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6 Great Concentration Exercises
It is not easy to concentrate especially when we are surrounded by distractions, such as the people around us, the hum of the computer, or other background noises. In order to achieve greater concentration, we need to have a strong will in order to block out all other distractions except for the task at hand. Your thoughts have more power than you give them credit for, and if we apply our will to improving our concentration and reaching our goals, we can take better control of the direction in life that we are headed towards.
Here is a list of great concentration exercises that you should practice if you want to improve your concentration. Keep in mind that you should be calm and relaxed, physically and mentally. You can achieve this state by taking deep breathes and focusing on your breathing.
These exercises should be attempted for 5 minutes, and lengthened to 10 and then 15 minutes when you are satisfied with your own results and achievements. Do not be discouraged, and keep working at them as they seem simple on paper, but actually require a great deal of mental willpower and concentration to achieve. If you find your mind wandering away from the task before the time limit is reached, bring yourself back and start over.
Exercise #1:
Count backwards slowly in your mind, starting from 100 back to 1. Do not allow your mind to wander to other thoughts, such as the time, or why the neighbour’s dog is barking. Focus solely on the numbers, and if you find yourself daydreaming or confused as to which number you are at and which direction you are counting in, start over.
Exercise #2:
You can move on to this exercise when you can complete exercise #1 successfully. This time, count backwards slowly from 100 to 1 in your mind, skipping in multiples of 3. For example, 100, 97, 94 and so on. Like the previous exercise, this should be completely mental. Do not hold a piece of paper with the numbers written on it, and do not use your fingers or any other means of keeping track of your position.
Exercise #3:
Take a simple thought, scenario, or word and keep it focused in your mind for the entire time limit. If it is a word, repeat it to yourself without getting distracted by your favourite way of using the word, or why you picked the word. Focus solely on the word and how it sounds. This should be the same if it is a thought or a scenario. Do not let your mind wander and contemplate why you have picked that particular scenario, or what it means and how it came to be. Focus simply on what it is.
Exercise #4:
Pick a simple object that you are familiar with, such as a pencil, or a fruit. Concentrate and look at the fruit taking in its texture, colour and any other physical attributes that are evident. Spend the entire time limit simply looking and absorbing the object from all angels. Your mind should only be seeing the object, and you should not let it wander to other thoughts.
Exercise #5:
When you are able to complete exercise #4, you can move on to this exercise. Picture the same object in your mind, and try to recall every single detail. The colour, the weight, the feel of the object and how it looks. If you are unable to recall, you may open your eyes to look at the object, and then close your eyes and concentrate again.
Exercise #6:
When you have completed the rest of the exercises, take the entire time limit to sit down and breathe deeply. Focus on your breathing, in and out. Let your mind be cleared of all thoughts, so that your focus is solely on your breathing. Do not entertain any stray thoughts and keep your mind completely clear.
About The Author Greg Frost is a leading innovator in the field of ADHD and the founder of http://www.Attention-Deficit-Disorder.net which specializes in providing a whole range of ADHD Medications topics to improve the quality of people's lives and help them concentrate.
Here is a list of great concentration exercises that you should practice if you want to improve your concentration. Keep in mind that you should be calm and relaxed, physically and mentally. You can achieve this state by taking deep breathes and focusing on your breathing.
These exercises should be attempted for 5 minutes, and lengthened to 10 and then 15 minutes when you are satisfied with your own results and achievements. Do not be discouraged, and keep working at them as they seem simple on paper, but actually require a great deal of mental willpower and concentration to achieve. If you find your mind wandering away from the task before the time limit is reached, bring yourself back and start over.
Exercise #1:
Count backwards slowly in your mind, starting from 100 back to 1. Do not allow your mind to wander to other thoughts, such as the time, or why the neighbour’s dog is barking. Focus solely on the numbers, and if you find yourself daydreaming or confused as to which number you are at and which direction you are counting in, start over.
Exercise #2:
You can move on to this exercise when you can complete exercise #1 successfully. This time, count backwards slowly from 100 to 1 in your mind, skipping in multiples of 3. For example, 100, 97, 94 and so on. Like the previous exercise, this should be completely mental. Do not hold a piece of paper with the numbers written on it, and do not use your fingers or any other means of keeping track of your position.
Exercise #3:
Take a simple thought, scenario, or word and keep it focused in your mind for the entire time limit. If it is a word, repeat it to yourself without getting distracted by your favourite way of using the word, or why you picked the word. Focus solely on the word and how it sounds. This should be the same if it is a thought or a scenario. Do not let your mind wander and contemplate why you have picked that particular scenario, or what it means and how it came to be. Focus simply on what it is.
Exercise #4:
Pick a simple object that you are familiar with, such as a pencil, or a fruit. Concentrate and look at the fruit taking in its texture, colour and any other physical attributes that are evident. Spend the entire time limit simply looking and absorbing the object from all angels. Your mind should only be seeing the object, and you should not let it wander to other thoughts.
Exercise #5:
When you are able to complete exercise #4, you can move on to this exercise. Picture the same object in your mind, and try to recall every single detail. The colour, the weight, the feel of the object and how it looks. If you are unable to recall, you may open your eyes to look at the object, and then close your eyes and concentrate again.
Exercise #6:
When you have completed the rest of the exercises, take the entire time limit to sit down and breathe deeply. Focus on your breathing, in and out. Let your mind be cleared of all thoughts, so that your focus is solely on your breathing. Do not entertain any stray thoughts and keep your mind completely clear.
About The Author Greg Frost is a leading innovator in the field of ADHD and the founder of http://www.Attention-Deficit-Disorder.net which specializes in providing a whole range of ADHD Medications topics to improve the quality of people's lives and help them concentrate.
Improving Self Confidence After A Breakup
Breaking up is never an easy process, especially if you never saw it coming. At this stage, it may feel easier for you to hold on to the broken pieces and memories then to move on. However, the truth is far from this.
There are many signs that you have yet to let go and start to move on. You find yourself retracing your footsteps, and every line in your fights, trying to figure out where it went wrong and what you could have done to fix it. You feel that if you could only figure out why your partner left, you would be able to convince them to come back. Worse still, is underlying all these thoughts, the implicit belief that your world is broken and will be magically fixed somehow if your partner would just step back into it.
If you have entertained any of the above thoughts, then it is a sure sign that your self confidence has hit rock bottom. In order to start healing and feeling better about yourself, you have to improve your self confidence at the same time. This is of course, easier said then done.
It is perfectly normal to want to know what went wrong, and if you were truly at fault. Sometimes it could be something that you did, but sometimes, it could simply be that your partner is no longer interested, and it is not because of anything you did or did not do. If you must think back on what happened, you owe it to yourself to figure out if you need to change your attitude, or behavior and actions. Changing these now may not bring your ex back into your life, but it will make your next relationship a lot smoother.
Give yourself time to cope with the sudden loss, and turn to your friends or family to help you adjust back to single hood. Fill in the gaps that your partner has left behind by pursuing activities that you never had time for, or did not do because your other half did not like it. Pick up a new hobby, go on a short holiday, meet new people, and do things that make you happy.
Remind yourself of your own self worth. Make a list of your accomplishments, or compliments that your friends, colleagues or superiors have ever paid you. This will help you keep in mind that you may have some habits that need changing, but so does everyone else, and that you do have many redeeming qualities. Work out some positive affirmations to help you clear your mind of negative thoughts and emotions. Let your subconscious help you with moving on.
All these advice will help you, but you must be willing to help yourself in improving your self confidence after a breakup. Make a checklist or a plan of what you want to achieve, and how you intend to go about achieving it. Give yourself a deadline to meet, and push yourself to do the things that you have listed out. Achieving what you have listed out will help you to feel better about yourself, and give you a sense of control over what you can do in life and help keep your emotions positive.
Do not beat yourself up for grieving over the loss of a relationship, or for taking time to deal with your sorrow. However, do not allow it to keep you down indefinitely. Remember that only when you truly let go will you be able to move on and build a future with someone else. Take this alone time to work through personal issues, or do things that you have always procrastinated doing. When you have learnt to change your bad habits and accept yourself, that is when you know that you are ready to move on and meet someone new.
About The Author Greg Frost is an in the field of confidence building and has an informative website at http://www.ConfidenceBuildingCourses.com. They cover a whole range of self confidence topics for the average person.
There are many signs that you have yet to let go and start to move on. You find yourself retracing your footsteps, and every line in your fights, trying to figure out where it went wrong and what you could have done to fix it. You feel that if you could only figure out why your partner left, you would be able to convince them to come back. Worse still, is underlying all these thoughts, the implicit belief that your world is broken and will be magically fixed somehow if your partner would just step back into it.
If you have entertained any of the above thoughts, then it is a sure sign that your self confidence has hit rock bottom. In order to start healing and feeling better about yourself, you have to improve your self confidence at the same time. This is of course, easier said then done.
It is perfectly normal to want to know what went wrong, and if you were truly at fault. Sometimes it could be something that you did, but sometimes, it could simply be that your partner is no longer interested, and it is not because of anything you did or did not do. If you must think back on what happened, you owe it to yourself to figure out if you need to change your attitude, or behavior and actions. Changing these now may not bring your ex back into your life, but it will make your next relationship a lot smoother.
Give yourself time to cope with the sudden loss, and turn to your friends or family to help you adjust back to single hood. Fill in the gaps that your partner has left behind by pursuing activities that you never had time for, or did not do because your other half did not like it. Pick up a new hobby, go on a short holiday, meet new people, and do things that make you happy.
Remind yourself of your own self worth. Make a list of your accomplishments, or compliments that your friends, colleagues or superiors have ever paid you. This will help you keep in mind that you may have some habits that need changing, but so does everyone else, and that you do have many redeeming qualities. Work out some positive affirmations to help you clear your mind of negative thoughts and emotions. Let your subconscious help you with moving on.
All these advice will help you, but you must be willing to help yourself in improving your self confidence after a breakup. Make a checklist or a plan of what you want to achieve, and how you intend to go about achieving it. Give yourself a deadline to meet, and push yourself to do the things that you have listed out. Achieving what you have listed out will help you to feel better about yourself, and give you a sense of control over what you can do in life and help keep your emotions positive.
Do not beat yourself up for grieving over the loss of a relationship, or for taking time to deal with your sorrow. However, do not allow it to keep you down indefinitely. Remember that only when you truly let go will you be able to move on and build a future with someone else. Take this alone time to work through personal issues, or do things that you have always procrastinated doing. When you have learnt to change your bad habits and accept yourself, that is when you know that you are ready to move on and meet someone new.
About The Author Greg Frost is an in the field of confidence building and has an informative website at http://www.ConfidenceBuildingCourses.com. They cover a whole range of self confidence topics for the average person.
Avoiding Short Term Memory Loss
Various names for memory loss are amnesia and dementia. One of our biggest fears as we age is losing our mental facilities, and how to deal with family members who are experiencing such memory loss. Short term memory loss can be triggered by stroke, circulation, Alzheimer’s as well as poor conductivity in the brain. However, take heart that memory loss is temporary and can be improved or avoided.
What is Short Term Memory?
Short-term memory refers to memories which last for a few minutes, and have gone through some amount of processing by the brain as compared to our long-term memory where information can be kept for a long time due to it being able to be related with other things that helps us remember. It is usually of limited capacity, and absorbing new information causes the older information to be “forgotten”. Trying to communicate with those who have short term memory loss is frustrating but it is not inevitable that we will have to lose our memory.
Avoiding Short Term Memory Loss
1. Items can be maintained indefinitely in short-term memory by rehearsal: e.g. by repeating the information over and over again.
2. Repetition may also increase the probability that items in short-term memory will enter permanent storage in long-term memory.
3. Mental and physical exercises, your diet and nutritional supplements can help in avoiding short term memory loss.
4. Your body needs to have sufficient sleep in order to create links and connections in your memory. Hence, a minimum of 8 hours of sleep a day is recommended.
5. Your vision is an incredible resource for boosting your memory, with approximately 40% of the brain devoted to it. This is more than any other function of the brain!
6. Visit your doctor for regular blood tests, as they are indicators as to possible ailments and allows for your doctor to provide a cure through medications.
7. When your brain is deprived of the blood it needs, your memory health will be adversely affected. Cut down on the number of triglycerides and cholesterol in your blood, as these act as blockers.
8. In order to maintain the health of your mind, your brain needs nutrients such as folic acid and vitamins B6 and B12. These support the neurotransmitters in your brain that allows you to pass on signals and information to where they should be.
These are 8 simply tips to avoiding short term memory loss. Do keep in mind that although aging affects memory loss, other factors such as health issues, alcohol and drug usage, smoking, and environmental toxins play an important part as well. While we may not be able to completely stop the process of aging which would then affect our memory capacity, we sure have the ability to prevent ourselves from damaging it even further. Keeping a healthy lifestyle of a good and balanced diet coupled with a good exercies regime to keep ourselves fit, we can slow down the process of our memory loss and be able to keep the memories we have for a long long time.
About The Author Greg Frost is a leading innovator in the memory field, and he specializes in helping people improve and develop their photographic memory. To find out more on how to deal with memory loss, learn advanced memory techniques, and have all your questions regarding memory answered, visit this site: http://www.photographic-memory.org http://www.photographic-memory.org
What is Short Term Memory?
Short-term memory refers to memories which last for a few minutes, and have gone through some amount of processing by the brain as compared to our long-term memory where information can be kept for a long time due to it being able to be related with other things that helps us remember. It is usually of limited capacity, and absorbing new information causes the older information to be “forgotten”. Trying to communicate with those who have short term memory loss is frustrating but it is not inevitable that we will have to lose our memory.
Avoiding Short Term Memory Loss
1. Items can be maintained indefinitely in short-term memory by rehearsal: e.g. by repeating the information over and over again.
2. Repetition may also increase the probability that items in short-term memory will enter permanent storage in long-term memory.
3. Mental and physical exercises, your diet and nutritional supplements can help in avoiding short term memory loss.
4. Your body needs to have sufficient sleep in order to create links and connections in your memory. Hence, a minimum of 8 hours of sleep a day is recommended.
5. Your vision is an incredible resource for boosting your memory, with approximately 40% of the brain devoted to it. This is more than any other function of the brain!
6. Visit your doctor for regular blood tests, as they are indicators as to possible ailments and allows for your doctor to provide a cure through medications.
7. When your brain is deprived of the blood it needs, your memory health will be adversely affected. Cut down on the number of triglycerides and cholesterol in your blood, as these act as blockers.
8. In order to maintain the health of your mind, your brain needs nutrients such as folic acid and vitamins B6 and B12. These support the neurotransmitters in your brain that allows you to pass on signals and information to where they should be.
These are 8 simply tips to avoiding short term memory loss. Do keep in mind that although aging affects memory loss, other factors such as health issues, alcohol and drug usage, smoking, and environmental toxins play an important part as well. While we may not be able to completely stop the process of aging which would then affect our memory capacity, we sure have the ability to prevent ourselves from damaging it even further. Keeping a healthy lifestyle of a good and balanced diet coupled with a good exercies regime to keep ourselves fit, we can slow down the process of our memory loss and be able to keep the memories we have for a long long time.
About The Author Greg Frost is a leading innovator in the memory field, and he specializes in helping people improve and develop their photographic memory. To find out more on how to deal with memory loss, learn advanced memory techniques, and have all your questions regarding memory answered, visit this site: http://www.photographic-memory.org http://www.photographic-memory.org
Boost Your Confidence with Visualization
Lack of confidence has the power to cause great problems in your life, not only because it makes you feel powerless and out of control, but also because it triggers you to act in ways that are usually counterproductive to what you want to accomplish. You’ll find yourself shying away from challenges, procrastinating on goals you set, earning less money, or even experiencing problems in your interactions with others.
Visualization is one great way to help boost your confidence in these situations, and others.
Using visualization to boost your confidence requires changing and improving your self image, from the inside out. Low self-confidence is usually accompanied by a negative or limiting self-image, so creating a new, positive self-image through visualization will usually result in increased confidence.
To begin, first take a few minutes to jot down some ideas about the self-image you’d like to have. Obviously, confidence will be one of the traits you’ll include on your list, but also consider other traits you’d like to have, like compassion, integrity, motivation and focus, and so on.
Once you have a list of personality traits written, close your eyes and call up a mental image of your current self. Does this person have any of the traits you’ve just written down? Most likely you’ll have at least one or two – even if you’d like them to be more prevalent.
Now, imagine that those traits and the others you’ve chosen are beginning to become obvious in this mental image of yourself. For example, you might see yourself standing a bit taller, smiling with happiness and purpose, or wearing an expression of peacefulness on your face.
Keep adding more and more visual cues to this mental image of yourself until you can see yourself as the person you want to be. (It will probably take more than one session to gain a clear and strong mental image of this new you, but do the best you can. The more you practice, the easier it will become.)
Now, as you look at this strong, confident person in your mind’s eye, begin to switch your focus slightly so that you are feeling and behaving as he or she does, mimicking his or her demeanor and posture. Feel yourself growing more confident, self-assured, impassioned about your life, motivated about your goals, and so on.
See yourself interacting in your daily life with newfound confidence and enthusiasm! You’re interacting with people easily, making eye contact and moving through your life experiences with zeal. Stay with this inner vision for as long as you can, making it feel as real as possible.
Then, even after you return to your normal activities, be sure to keep calling to mind a mental picture of this new you as often as you can, and make an attempt to feel and act like that person did during your visualization exercise.
Rather than reacting to situations like you normally would, pause and remember that you are now a confident, self-assured person! How would such a person handle this situation?
The more you shift your focus to express this new self-image, the easier it will become to keep it going – and gradually become that person inside and out!
About The Author Iain Legg is now giving away powerful mind power secrets in his free ecourse. Discover the most powerful visualization exercise in the universe! Free mind power course reveals all at http://www.mindpowercourse.com...
Visualization is one great way to help boost your confidence in these situations, and others.
Using visualization to boost your confidence requires changing and improving your self image, from the inside out. Low self-confidence is usually accompanied by a negative or limiting self-image, so creating a new, positive self-image through visualization will usually result in increased confidence.
To begin, first take a few minutes to jot down some ideas about the self-image you’d like to have. Obviously, confidence will be one of the traits you’ll include on your list, but also consider other traits you’d like to have, like compassion, integrity, motivation and focus, and so on.
Once you have a list of personality traits written, close your eyes and call up a mental image of your current self. Does this person have any of the traits you’ve just written down? Most likely you’ll have at least one or two – even if you’d like them to be more prevalent.
Now, imagine that those traits and the others you’ve chosen are beginning to become obvious in this mental image of yourself. For example, you might see yourself standing a bit taller, smiling with happiness and purpose, or wearing an expression of peacefulness on your face.
Keep adding more and more visual cues to this mental image of yourself until you can see yourself as the person you want to be. (It will probably take more than one session to gain a clear and strong mental image of this new you, but do the best you can. The more you practice, the easier it will become.)
Now, as you look at this strong, confident person in your mind’s eye, begin to switch your focus slightly so that you are feeling and behaving as he or she does, mimicking his or her demeanor and posture. Feel yourself growing more confident, self-assured, impassioned about your life, motivated about your goals, and so on.
See yourself interacting in your daily life with newfound confidence and enthusiasm! You’re interacting with people easily, making eye contact and moving through your life experiences with zeal. Stay with this inner vision for as long as you can, making it feel as real as possible.
Then, even after you return to your normal activities, be sure to keep calling to mind a mental picture of this new you as often as you can, and make an attempt to feel and act like that person did during your visualization exercise.
Rather than reacting to situations like you normally would, pause and remember that you are now a confident, self-assured person! How would such a person handle this situation?
The more you shift your focus to express this new self-image, the easier it will become to keep it going – and gradually become that person inside and out!
About The Author Iain Legg is now giving away powerful mind power secrets in his free ecourse. Discover the most powerful visualization exercise in the universe! Free mind power course reveals all at http://www.mindpowercourse.com...
10 Bare Truths To Take Care Of Your Phobia, Fear Or Depression
1) Your Emotional Issue Is Made Of Energy
When was the last time a brain surgeon opened up a patient and found his/her childhood memories, political opinions, or religious persuasion? Our memories, beliefs, values and, importantly, emotions are made of energy. So doesn’t it make sense to treat these with energy therapy?
For too long now talk therapy has been the medium of choice for psychological problems, instead of addressing the problem at the root cause. Your energy system. This is the modality of EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), Emotrance, Sekhem, TAT(Tapas Acupressure Technique), and so on.
2) In Some Cases, It Is More Difficult To Overcome Your Issues If You Have A Spouse And An Intact Family Where a “normal” family structure is in place, there is often a support structure in place to maintain emotional problems. That is, the family is flexible enough in its behavior to accommodate the problem in many different ways, which accidentally advantage the sufferer. In this way the patient has constant positive reinforcement for holding on to the trauma, and thus becomes unconsciously reluctant to give it up.
3) In The Wrong Hands, It Can Be Unsafe To Cure Your Emotional Issue
In some cases, if some time has passed since your problem began, you should not seek treatment at a certain point in your life. Here’s why.
To successfully hold on to and relive a problem over a number of years is an achievement in itself. It requires an entire support structure to be in place. Small (but significant) changes, which accommodate the problem, are usually made by family, colleagues, loved ones, etc, and go unnoticed over time.
In the long term, you may have accepted yourself as a “trauma victim” or “traumatised”; it may be “who you are,” and part of your identity. If reinforced over a period of time, with enough dependency on others, the issue can be the lynchpin holding several aspects of your life together, no matter how dysfunctional or unuseful they may be. And to remove it could create an entirely new – additional - issue.
4) Your Issue May Be Masking Other Things
Ask yourself the following questions:
•What would you be focussing on if you didn’t spend time worrying about the symptoms of your issue? •How would you be spending your time if you weren’t accommodating this problem? •What’s the upside of holding onto this problem? •What else was happening in your life the first time this problem happened?
What do you get out of holding onto this trauma? More attention from friends and family? Sympathy? Pity? Familiarity? Certainty? Routine? Like it or not, you will have to let go of any accidental benefits which you may be getting by holding onto your problem. Especially if it began a long time ago.
5) Traumatic Memories Are Only Memories To Your Conscious Mind. To Your Unconscious Mind, They Are Current Events. We all have our own beliefs and identity, stored deep at an unconscious level. These are the ideas, accepted as truths, written on the walls of our mind. Often these are the teachings of parents, siblings, teachers, and other authority figures we take for granted. These writings on our walls tell us who we are when we get up in the morning. They tell us how to behave, attitudes to have, ways to react. They give us mental shortcuts to everyday decision making. Without them, we would very quickly become overloaded with the millions of bits of information we face with each day. Quite unconsciously, we are constantly looking at these writings on our walls, every moment of the day. We must constantly refer to them, to avoid continual and permanent trauma.
Interestingly, traumatic memories are stored as pictures on those same walls. Your unconscious mind has constant access to these pictures. Naturally, it wants to protect you, and warns you about anything in the outside world that could vaguely resemble those pictures. Importantly, once it recognises such a thing, your mind will trigger the same stress response and physiological reactions in your body AS IF THE ORIGINAL EVENT WAS HAPPENING AGAIN, NOW. As if it was a current event.
6) You May Be Missing Something…
We all live our lives dissociated to some degree. We have to. If we lived our lives constantly experiencing our deepest emotions we’d be unable to drive, have conversations, do business, and so on. To some degree, dissociation is useful.
However, this also means that certain aspects of your trauma, too painful to consider consciously, are hidden from view. And as long as they are, they will continue to trigger stress responses, outside of your awareness.
7) Sometimes We Confuse Who We Are, With What We’ve Been Through
Many times we confuse our identity - who we are - with an event that happened to us. The traumatic experience you had, happened to you, but it is not you. It does not define or describe you; it is not all of you; and it is not the last word on you. It is not the whole of your life’s experience, nor is it the last thing you will ever experience. Repeat after me: I am not the events which happen to me.
In the case of severe or ongoing issues, we can also confuse ourselves with the accidental benefits we derive from the trauma, e.g. pity, attention, comfort, reassurance, help to do tasks, etc. Over time a part of us can enjoy these things too much, and it becomes another reason not to let go of the issue itself.
8) “My How You’ve Changed Since I’ve Changed”
Every human being is a system. Change one part of that system and rest of the system will adapt accordingly. The same applies to families, colleagues, populations.
After any treatment, be aware of the small things that change around you. Loved ones; glances; gestures. But to notice them you must be looking for them.
9) Trauma Will Change You
Sometimes going through hell changes us as a person. But sometimes, it is required. Sometimes it is just life moving you, changing you into the person you need to be, by the only vehicle available at the time(or the only way life knows how).
Because the changes from a traumatic experience can be big, can’t they? They can move your whole world, in a very short time.
But when you go to the gym, you don’t make progress by lifting the easy weights within your comfort zone. And isn’t it true to say that when we come through trauma, we come out the other side knowing more about ourself as a person, more about who we are, and what we truly want in life? Going through trauma, although painful, ultimately helps us feel our wants, and come from that place.
10) Take Responsibility For Your Issues
Taking responsibility for your issue means first accepting it is a problem. It means being kind enough to yourself in the long run – the ‘future you’ – to take action and remedy the problem, now. It means accepting yourself, WITH the emotions the issue gives you, without judgment. It means knowing that the problem is just the current version of you, and giving yourself permission to heal it now.
You must be willing to take responsibility for your issue, take action, and forgive – both yourself and others.
About The Author Stewart Robertson
Copyright 2008 Stress Clinic, http://www.stressreliefclinic.co.uk. Stewart Robertson is the author of the blueprint EFT Training Course: http://www.eftimmersion.com and is the commanding EFT Practitioner in Scotland. His EFT Scotland Newsletter is available at http://www.stressreliefclinic.co.uk/Newsletter.html
When was the last time a brain surgeon opened up a patient and found his/her childhood memories, political opinions, or religious persuasion? Our memories, beliefs, values and, importantly, emotions are made of energy. So doesn’t it make sense to treat these with energy therapy?
For too long now talk therapy has been the medium of choice for psychological problems, instead of addressing the problem at the root cause. Your energy system. This is the modality of EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), Emotrance, Sekhem, TAT(Tapas Acupressure Technique), and so on.
2) In Some Cases, It Is More Difficult To Overcome Your Issues If You Have A Spouse And An Intact Family Where a “normal” family structure is in place, there is often a support structure in place to maintain emotional problems. That is, the family is flexible enough in its behavior to accommodate the problem in many different ways, which accidentally advantage the sufferer. In this way the patient has constant positive reinforcement for holding on to the trauma, and thus becomes unconsciously reluctant to give it up.
3) In The Wrong Hands, It Can Be Unsafe To Cure Your Emotional Issue
In some cases, if some time has passed since your problem began, you should not seek treatment at a certain point in your life. Here’s why.
To successfully hold on to and relive a problem over a number of years is an achievement in itself. It requires an entire support structure to be in place. Small (but significant) changes, which accommodate the problem, are usually made by family, colleagues, loved ones, etc, and go unnoticed over time.
In the long term, you may have accepted yourself as a “trauma victim” or “traumatised”; it may be “who you are,” and part of your identity. If reinforced over a period of time, with enough dependency on others, the issue can be the lynchpin holding several aspects of your life together, no matter how dysfunctional or unuseful they may be. And to remove it could create an entirely new – additional - issue.
4) Your Issue May Be Masking Other Things
Ask yourself the following questions:
•What would you be focussing on if you didn’t spend time worrying about the symptoms of your issue? •How would you be spending your time if you weren’t accommodating this problem? •What’s the upside of holding onto this problem? •What else was happening in your life the first time this problem happened?
What do you get out of holding onto this trauma? More attention from friends and family? Sympathy? Pity? Familiarity? Certainty? Routine? Like it or not, you will have to let go of any accidental benefits which you may be getting by holding onto your problem. Especially if it began a long time ago.
5) Traumatic Memories Are Only Memories To Your Conscious Mind. To Your Unconscious Mind, They Are Current Events. We all have our own beliefs and identity, stored deep at an unconscious level. These are the ideas, accepted as truths, written on the walls of our mind. Often these are the teachings of parents, siblings, teachers, and other authority figures we take for granted. These writings on our walls tell us who we are when we get up in the morning. They tell us how to behave, attitudes to have, ways to react. They give us mental shortcuts to everyday decision making. Without them, we would very quickly become overloaded with the millions of bits of information we face with each day. Quite unconsciously, we are constantly looking at these writings on our walls, every moment of the day. We must constantly refer to them, to avoid continual and permanent trauma.
Interestingly, traumatic memories are stored as pictures on those same walls. Your unconscious mind has constant access to these pictures. Naturally, it wants to protect you, and warns you about anything in the outside world that could vaguely resemble those pictures. Importantly, once it recognises such a thing, your mind will trigger the same stress response and physiological reactions in your body AS IF THE ORIGINAL EVENT WAS HAPPENING AGAIN, NOW. As if it was a current event.
6) You May Be Missing Something…
We all live our lives dissociated to some degree. We have to. If we lived our lives constantly experiencing our deepest emotions we’d be unable to drive, have conversations, do business, and so on. To some degree, dissociation is useful.
However, this also means that certain aspects of your trauma, too painful to consider consciously, are hidden from view. And as long as they are, they will continue to trigger stress responses, outside of your awareness.
7) Sometimes We Confuse Who We Are, With What We’ve Been Through
Many times we confuse our identity - who we are - with an event that happened to us. The traumatic experience you had, happened to you, but it is not you. It does not define or describe you; it is not all of you; and it is not the last word on you. It is not the whole of your life’s experience, nor is it the last thing you will ever experience. Repeat after me: I am not the events which happen to me.
In the case of severe or ongoing issues, we can also confuse ourselves with the accidental benefits we derive from the trauma, e.g. pity, attention, comfort, reassurance, help to do tasks, etc. Over time a part of us can enjoy these things too much, and it becomes another reason not to let go of the issue itself.
8) “My How You’ve Changed Since I’ve Changed”
Every human being is a system. Change one part of that system and rest of the system will adapt accordingly. The same applies to families, colleagues, populations.
After any treatment, be aware of the small things that change around you. Loved ones; glances; gestures. But to notice them you must be looking for them.
9) Trauma Will Change You
Sometimes going through hell changes us as a person. But sometimes, it is required. Sometimes it is just life moving you, changing you into the person you need to be, by the only vehicle available at the time(or the only way life knows how).
Because the changes from a traumatic experience can be big, can’t they? They can move your whole world, in a very short time.
But when you go to the gym, you don’t make progress by lifting the easy weights within your comfort zone. And isn’t it true to say that when we come through trauma, we come out the other side knowing more about ourself as a person, more about who we are, and what we truly want in life? Going through trauma, although painful, ultimately helps us feel our wants, and come from that place.
10) Take Responsibility For Your Issues
Taking responsibility for your issue means first accepting it is a problem. It means being kind enough to yourself in the long run – the ‘future you’ – to take action and remedy the problem, now. It means accepting yourself, WITH the emotions the issue gives you, without judgment. It means knowing that the problem is just the current version of you, and giving yourself permission to heal it now.
You must be willing to take responsibility for your issue, take action, and forgive – both yourself and others.
About The Author Stewart Robertson
Copyright 2008 Stress Clinic, http://www.stressreliefclinic.co.uk. Stewart Robertson is the author of the blueprint EFT Training Course: http://www.eftimmersion.com and is the commanding EFT Practitioner in Scotland. His EFT Scotland Newsletter is available at http://www.stressreliefclinic.co.uk/Newsletter.html
4 Quick Tips to Improve your Self Confidence
Self confidence is akin to a tool. It provides you with a sense of certainty, and helps you to manage your fears. Self confidence is usually built up through a history of positive experiences, and with an improved sense of self confidence you will find that your esteem and mental state will be greatly improved as well.
If you find yourself unable to summon up courage to voice your own opinion, or to tell someone to back off when you need to, then it is probably a sign that you need to improve your self confidence. Here are 4 easy tips that will help you do just that.
Tip #1: Set Goals
The first step in gaining self confidence is to set realistic and achievable goals for yourself. These goals should not be unachievable nor out of reach, but should be a challenge for you so that you can improve. No goal is too small, as every little step counts and works towards achieving the next bigger goal. With set goals, you will be able to push yourself to exceed your comfort zone, and it will give you something concrete to work towards.
Tip #2: Control your Feelings
Feelings are strong emotions that can have a big impact on our self confidence. Emotions associated with fear, anxiety or distrust can undermine our self esteem, whilst others like happiness and excitement can increase our self confidence. By being able to control your emotions so that you do not fall prey to negative emotions, you will be able to project positive emotions. This makes it easier for you to act and appear more confident.
Tip #3: Have a Mentor
Pick someone that you trust who will be able to give you the type of guidance that you are looking for. Make sure that it is someone who will not be afraid to push you to achieve your goals, and hold you accountable if you are not reaching them. It can be a friend or a family member, or a professional even.
Tip #4: Take Action
Do not allow yourself to procrastinate as you need to take active steps in order to build confidence. It is often a vicious cycle if you insist on waiting for your confidence to improve first before taking action to help you grow your self-confidence. Based on the goals that you have set for yourself, set aside an hour or so everyday to work on doing activities that will help you to achieve those targets.
Stop yourself from worrying about being unprepared, or not confident enough to approach new activities. Whilst it is normal to worry, it is important that you do not do so excessively. There are many possibilities open to you, and you need to be receptive to developing your own self-confidence.
About The Author Greg Frost is an in the field of confidence building and has an informative website at http://www.ConfidenceBuildingCourses.com. They cover a whole range of self confidence topics for the average person.
If you find yourself unable to summon up courage to voice your own opinion, or to tell someone to back off when you need to, then it is probably a sign that you need to improve your self confidence. Here are 4 easy tips that will help you do just that.
Tip #1: Set Goals
The first step in gaining self confidence is to set realistic and achievable goals for yourself. These goals should not be unachievable nor out of reach, but should be a challenge for you so that you can improve. No goal is too small, as every little step counts and works towards achieving the next bigger goal. With set goals, you will be able to push yourself to exceed your comfort zone, and it will give you something concrete to work towards.
Tip #2: Control your Feelings
Feelings are strong emotions that can have a big impact on our self confidence. Emotions associated with fear, anxiety or distrust can undermine our self esteem, whilst others like happiness and excitement can increase our self confidence. By being able to control your emotions so that you do not fall prey to negative emotions, you will be able to project positive emotions. This makes it easier for you to act and appear more confident.
Tip #3: Have a Mentor
Pick someone that you trust who will be able to give you the type of guidance that you are looking for. Make sure that it is someone who will not be afraid to push you to achieve your goals, and hold you accountable if you are not reaching them. It can be a friend or a family member, or a professional even.
Tip #4: Take Action
Do not allow yourself to procrastinate as you need to take active steps in order to build confidence. It is often a vicious cycle if you insist on waiting for your confidence to improve first before taking action to help you grow your self-confidence. Based on the goals that you have set for yourself, set aside an hour or so everyday to work on doing activities that will help you to achieve those targets.
Stop yourself from worrying about being unprepared, or not confident enough to approach new activities. Whilst it is normal to worry, it is important that you do not do so excessively. There are many possibilities open to you, and you need to be receptive to developing your own self-confidence.
About The Author Greg Frost is an in the field of confidence building and has an informative website at http://www.ConfidenceBuildingCourses.com. They cover a whole range of self confidence topics for the average person.
Overconfidence VS Lack of Confidence
Confidence refers to a strong sense of belief and trust in your abilities to achieve what you want in life. The benefits of having greater self-confidence are numerous, allowing you to have more faith in your decisions in life. Having a lack of confidence can prove to be an obstacle to achieving more from your life, but having overconfidence should also be avoided.
Whether you feel that you have sufficient self confidence, or that you have room for improvement, do keep in mind that the key is in striking a balance between your level of confidence, and the life path that you are charting. If these two are not complementary, you may find that a lack of confidence will hinder you from staying on track, whilst overconfidence may prove to be your downfall.
Self confident people are able to determine what they are doing in life, and reach for it with enthusiasm, knowing and placing faith in their strengths and skills to achieve it. Many people seek to improve their self confidence, but it is necessary to draw a line between being confident and over confident. Overconfidence can work against what you are aiming for, blinding you to your own comparative advantages or preventing you from accurately determining if the position you are in is where you desire to be.
Overconfidence also works against you, when you are faced with failures or obstacles when you feel strongly that it should have been straightforward and easily achievable. This results in anger and impulsive behavior, and you may end up souring relationships with your colleagues and close friends. Often, people who are overconfident are unaware that they are, or that they have overreacted. This makes it even more difficult for them to identify if they are overconfident.
A few likely signs that you are overconfident is if you tend to be overly assertive and feel that you are superior to others. You will also find that your friends are keeping their distance, or are somewhat cool towards you, and most people keep a distance from you. If you suspect that you might be overconfident, well done, this is a signal that you are humble enough to deal with your confidence problems.
Constantly keep your pride and confidence in tasks or opinions come in second to logic and analysis. Do not let your confidence cause you to lose your guard, or put in less effort than you should be putting into your work.
Thus, while being confident is desirable, be careful not to over rely on your self confidence or use it as a reason to procrastinate or to cut down on your preparation work.
About The Author Greg Frost is an in the field of confidence building and has an informative website at http://www.ConfidenceBuildingCourses.com. They cover a whole range of self confidence topics for the average person.
Whether you feel that you have sufficient self confidence, or that you have room for improvement, do keep in mind that the key is in striking a balance between your level of confidence, and the life path that you are charting. If these two are not complementary, you may find that a lack of confidence will hinder you from staying on track, whilst overconfidence may prove to be your downfall.
Self confident people are able to determine what they are doing in life, and reach for it with enthusiasm, knowing and placing faith in their strengths and skills to achieve it. Many people seek to improve their self confidence, but it is necessary to draw a line between being confident and over confident. Overconfidence can work against what you are aiming for, blinding you to your own comparative advantages or preventing you from accurately determining if the position you are in is where you desire to be.
Overconfidence also works against you, when you are faced with failures or obstacles when you feel strongly that it should have been straightforward and easily achievable. This results in anger and impulsive behavior, and you may end up souring relationships with your colleagues and close friends. Often, people who are overconfident are unaware that they are, or that they have overreacted. This makes it even more difficult for them to identify if they are overconfident.
A few likely signs that you are overconfident is if you tend to be overly assertive and feel that you are superior to others. You will also find that your friends are keeping their distance, or are somewhat cool towards you, and most people keep a distance from you. If you suspect that you might be overconfident, well done, this is a signal that you are humble enough to deal with your confidence problems.
Constantly keep your pride and confidence in tasks or opinions come in second to logic and analysis. Do not let your confidence cause you to lose your guard, or put in less effort than you should be putting into your work.
Thus, while being confident is desirable, be careful not to over rely on your self confidence or use it as a reason to procrastinate or to cut down on your preparation work.
About The Author Greg Frost is an in the field of confidence building and has an informative website at http://www.ConfidenceBuildingCourses.com. They cover a whole range of self confidence topics for the average person.
Self-Love Empowers You
When you think of personal empowerment, you probably think of qualities like strength, confidence, courage and tenacity – but did you know that self-love is also an important aspect of empowerment?
When you truly love yourself . . .
• You treat yourself with respect and kindness. You set firm boundaries in your life, you devote time and attention to proper self-care, and you consider your personal time to be a high priority. Feeling loved and cared for automatically makes you feel more balanced and strengthened from within.
• You expect fair treatment from others too. No longer do you find yourself settling for less than you deserve or allowing others to take advantage of you. Instead, a strong level of self-love gives you the courage to stand up for yourself.
• You have a greater sense of self-awareness and self-knowledge. Loving and accepting yourself helps you to feel more connected to your authentic self, which inspires confidence and assurance in who you are.
There are many more ways that self-love can help you feel more empowered, but more important is knowing how to begin loving yourself. If you’ve spent the majority of your life feeling negatively about yourself it might seem like an impossible task to suddenly bring forth feelings of genuine self-love, but it’s probably easier than you think!
First and foremost, it’s important to spend quality time alone on a regular basis so you can get to know yourself. You can explore and discover your interests and passions, indulge in some favorite hobbies, write your thoughts and feelings in a journal, or simply dream and plan for your future.
Make time to relax and do the things you love. Listen to uplifting music, read great books, stimulate your creativity by exploring your artistic talents, or take classes on topics that interest you.
Nurture yourself as often as possible. Go easy on yourself when you’re not feeling well, and pamper yourself when you feel the need for a little comforting.
Buy nice things for yourself. Speak kindly to yourself. Romance yourself! Take long walks on the beach and gaze up at the stars at night. Buy a beautiful greeting card, write an encouraging note inside and mail it to yourself.
Most importantly, be sure to look at yourself in the mirror every day and say, “I love you. You’re a great person and you deserve the best that life has to offer.”
All of these activities are simply suggestions, of course. Follow your heart and do what feels right to you. As long as you’re doing things that make you feel loved and cared for, you can’t help but feel happy, fulfilled and empowered!
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When you truly love yourself . . .
• You treat yourself with respect and kindness. You set firm boundaries in your life, you devote time and attention to proper self-care, and you consider your personal time to be a high priority. Feeling loved and cared for automatically makes you feel more balanced and strengthened from within.
• You expect fair treatment from others too. No longer do you find yourself settling for less than you deserve or allowing others to take advantage of you. Instead, a strong level of self-love gives you the courage to stand up for yourself.
• You have a greater sense of self-awareness and self-knowledge. Loving and accepting yourself helps you to feel more connected to your authentic self, which inspires confidence and assurance in who you are.
There are many more ways that self-love can help you feel more empowered, but more important is knowing how to begin loving yourself. If you’ve spent the majority of your life feeling negatively about yourself it might seem like an impossible task to suddenly bring forth feelings of genuine self-love, but it’s probably easier than you think!
First and foremost, it’s important to spend quality time alone on a regular basis so you can get to know yourself. You can explore and discover your interests and passions, indulge in some favorite hobbies, write your thoughts and feelings in a journal, or simply dream and plan for your future.
Make time to relax and do the things you love. Listen to uplifting music, read great books, stimulate your creativity by exploring your artistic talents, or take classes on topics that interest you.
Nurture yourself as often as possible. Go easy on yourself when you’re not feeling well, and pamper yourself when you feel the need for a little comforting.
Buy nice things for yourself. Speak kindly to yourself. Romance yourself! Take long walks on the beach and gaze up at the stars at night. Buy a beautiful greeting card, write an encouraging note inside and mail it to yourself.
Most importantly, be sure to look at yourself in the mirror every day and say, “I love you. You’re a great person and you deserve the best that life has to offer.”
All of these activities are simply suggestions, of course. Follow your heart and do what feels right to you. As long as you’re doing things that make you feel loved and cared for, you can’t help but feel happy, fulfilled and empowered!
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Knowledge is Power
Part of being an empowered person is having intimate knowledge and awareness of yourself as an individual, including your strengths, talents, weaknesses, capabilities and limitations.
How well do you know yourself? You’d be surprised how many people don’t know themselves at all! If you’ve spent the majority of your time focusing on the people around you, you may not have a clear self-image, which can lead to feelings of inner disconnection and disempowerment.
On the other hand, when you know yourself well you are empowered in that knowledge. You feel confident, self-assured, centered and strong, which enables you to live purposely and make more beneficial decisions.
Getting to know yourself is easy to do with a consistent investment of time and focus. Basically, you’d start just like you would if you wanted to get to know another person better – you’d spend quality time with them! By spending frequent quality time with yourself, you’ll gain a clearer idea of who you are.
Start by considering your interests and passions. Grab a sheet of paper and jot down some of the things you enjoy doing now, or have wanted to explore in the past. If you’re not sure, think about the things you did when you were younger. Have you always had an interest in creative activities like art and photography? Did you belong to any clubs in school? Have you always wanted to take foreign language classes or travel to exotic places?
Eventually you’ll want to devote time to exploring these activities because they’ll help you to grow more fully into yourself as a person. However, for now simply explore your dreams, passions and interests on paper.
It’s also a good idea to get an idea of your personal values using this same process. What is most important to you? Honesty, love, compassion, service to others, family connections, making a positive difference in the world? Jot down some ideas about the things that really matter to you. Through these values you’ll get a clearer idea of the type of person you are.
Eventually you’ll want to be sure that the majority of your daily activities are in line with these values. For example, does your job support your value of honesty, or are you required to “fib” or act in ways that are contrary to your values? This is important because you will never feel truly empowered until you are living in alignment with your core values!
Another great way to get to know yourself better is through journaling. When you journal, you are connecting with a deeper part of yourself: your authentic self! Start by writing down some of your inner thoughts and insights about yourself. If you’re not sure exactly what to write, try asking questions like these:
• Who am I? • Why am I here? • What is my life purpose? • What am I here to contribute to the world? • What do others think of me? • Is that who I really am?
Don’t worry about getting the answers right – the important thing is to explore your personality and get a clearer idea of who you are. Open your mind and let the answers spill out onto the page.
Getting to know yourself is a process that will continue throughout the rest of your life, but the more connected you become with your inner self, the more confident, self-assured – and empowered - you’re going to feel.
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How well do you know yourself? You’d be surprised how many people don’t know themselves at all! If you’ve spent the majority of your time focusing on the people around you, you may not have a clear self-image, which can lead to feelings of inner disconnection and disempowerment.
On the other hand, when you know yourself well you are empowered in that knowledge. You feel confident, self-assured, centered and strong, which enables you to live purposely and make more beneficial decisions.
Getting to know yourself is easy to do with a consistent investment of time and focus. Basically, you’d start just like you would if you wanted to get to know another person better – you’d spend quality time with them! By spending frequent quality time with yourself, you’ll gain a clearer idea of who you are.
Start by considering your interests and passions. Grab a sheet of paper and jot down some of the things you enjoy doing now, or have wanted to explore in the past. If you’re not sure, think about the things you did when you were younger. Have you always had an interest in creative activities like art and photography? Did you belong to any clubs in school? Have you always wanted to take foreign language classes or travel to exotic places?
Eventually you’ll want to devote time to exploring these activities because they’ll help you to grow more fully into yourself as a person. However, for now simply explore your dreams, passions and interests on paper.
It’s also a good idea to get an idea of your personal values using this same process. What is most important to you? Honesty, love, compassion, service to others, family connections, making a positive difference in the world? Jot down some ideas about the things that really matter to you. Through these values you’ll get a clearer idea of the type of person you are.
Eventually you’ll want to be sure that the majority of your daily activities are in line with these values. For example, does your job support your value of honesty, or are you required to “fib” or act in ways that are contrary to your values? This is important because you will never feel truly empowered until you are living in alignment with your core values!
Another great way to get to know yourself better is through journaling. When you journal, you are connecting with a deeper part of yourself: your authentic self! Start by writing down some of your inner thoughts and insights about yourself. If you’re not sure exactly what to write, try asking questions like these:
• Who am I? • Why am I here? • What is my life purpose? • What am I here to contribute to the world? • What do others think of me? • Is that who I really am?
Don’t worry about getting the answers right – the important thing is to explore your personality and get a clearer idea of who you are. Open your mind and let the answers spill out onto the page.
Getting to know yourself is a process that will continue throughout the rest of your life, but the more connected you become with your inner self, the more confident, self-assured – and empowered - you’re going to feel.
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Success Requires a Clear Vision
One reason many people struggle to become successful is because they don’t have a clear vision of what they want to accomplish. They may have vague ideas of the benefits they’d like to gain, like more money or a bigger house – but they have no idea how they’ll achieve them. They may try a few different ventures, halfheartedly working toward a greater level of success, but eventually lose interest when they don’t see much progress.
Has this been your experience too?
The problem may not be that you’re incapable of reaching the level of success you desire, but rather that you don’t have a clear enough vision of what you want to accomplish.
The true measure of success is not what comes from it, but rather your ability to see clearly what you want to achieve and then doing what it takes to make it happen!
Below you’ll find a simple 5-step process to help you develop a clear vision and put it into action:
1) Know exactly what you want to accomplish. Rather than thinking about the perks and benefits that come along with success, focus instead on conceiving a PURPOSE. What do you want to accomplish? What is important to you? Why is it important?
Think about the qualities and skills you’d like to develop within yourself, and the types of goals that could help you do it. Be very specific! Write it down in minute detail.
2) Know the approximate timeline for completion. Realistically, how long should it take for your objective to be completed? Barring any unexpected delays, have a general idea of when you should reach your goal.
3) Have a list of clear action steps. Besides knowing exactly what you want to achieve, knowing exactly how you’ll do it is also vital. Think about the end result you want to create, and then consider exactly what you’d need to do in order to get from here to there. Write each step in order, and make a note of any possible obstacles you may face along with actions you could take to overcome them.
4) Have a solid plan for putting those steps into action. Will all of your action steps be undertaken at once? Or is there a clear progression that needs to be followed? If a delay or obstacle comes up, would that change the order of your action steps? Prepare and plan ahead as much as possible.
Then, make sure you put your plans into action, and keep them in action.
5) Finally, re-evaluate and readjust as necessary. Once you’re moving forward you’ll want to set aside some time to re-evaluate and readjust if circumstances have changed since you drew up your original plans. You can do this as frequently as needed in order to ensure you are staying on track.
With a clear vision and a strong desire to achieve it, you’ll soon find that you’re on the fast track to success like never before!
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Has this been your experience too?
The problem may not be that you’re incapable of reaching the level of success you desire, but rather that you don’t have a clear enough vision of what you want to accomplish.
The true measure of success is not what comes from it, but rather your ability to see clearly what you want to achieve and then doing what it takes to make it happen!
Below you’ll find a simple 5-step process to help you develop a clear vision and put it into action:
1) Know exactly what you want to accomplish. Rather than thinking about the perks and benefits that come along with success, focus instead on conceiving a PURPOSE. What do you want to accomplish? What is important to you? Why is it important?
Think about the qualities and skills you’d like to develop within yourself, and the types of goals that could help you do it. Be very specific! Write it down in minute detail.
2) Know the approximate timeline for completion. Realistically, how long should it take for your objective to be completed? Barring any unexpected delays, have a general idea of when you should reach your goal.
3) Have a list of clear action steps. Besides knowing exactly what you want to achieve, knowing exactly how you’ll do it is also vital. Think about the end result you want to create, and then consider exactly what you’d need to do in order to get from here to there. Write each step in order, and make a note of any possible obstacles you may face along with actions you could take to overcome them.
4) Have a solid plan for putting those steps into action. Will all of your action steps be undertaken at once? Or is there a clear progression that needs to be followed? If a delay or obstacle comes up, would that change the order of your action steps? Prepare and plan ahead as much as possible.
Then, make sure you put your plans into action, and keep them in action.
5) Finally, re-evaluate and readjust as necessary. Once you’re moving forward you’ll want to set aside some time to re-evaluate and readjust if circumstances have changed since you drew up your original plans. You can do this as frequently as needed in order to ensure you are staying on track.
With a clear vision and a strong desire to achieve it, you’ll soon find that you’re on the fast track to success like never before!
About The Author Iain Legg is now giving away Gold membership at his Success Library. Get $218.45 worth of success motivation ebooks and audios for free at http://www.yourinstantsuccesslibrary.com. Including free self hypnosis and brain entrainment audios.
Empowerment and Fear
Do you ever allow fearful thoughts to erode your confidence and diminish your sense of empowerment? It’s a common trend for many people, and when you’re stuck in the midst of fear and uncertainty it can seem like an impossible task to pull yourself out of it.
However, fear and empowerment are actually like two opposite sides of the same coin. On one side is the belief that you are not strong or capable enough to handle challenges or life in general; while on the other side is the certainty that you are fully in control of your own life and have the power to triumph over adversity.
Transforming fear to empowerment is as simple as flipping the coin so it lands on the other side! The “coin” in this example is a little thing called “perspective.”
In order to release fearful thoughts and become empowered, you need to be willing to see yourself and your life circumstances in a different light. Here are three easy ways to start:
1) Start small!
Many people believe that in order to empower themselves they need to have massive amounts of courage and inner strength, but that usually comes later. Instead, be willing to start small and empower yourself more gradually. Start with one small action that makes you feel nervous and nudge yourself to move forward and do it. As you face your fear and master one small challenge, you’ll begin to feel stronger and be willing to take on more, which will continue to build your strength and empower you.
2) Affirm your strength.
Fearful thoughts often cause you to doubt yourself, which creates more fearful thoughts! To reverse this, begin affirming that you’re strong and capable as often as possible – and most especially when you begin to feel disempowered. Affirm not only your strength and capability, but your flexibility, resiliency and resourcefulness to handle anything that comes your way. The more you affirm it, the more you’ll begin to believe it.
3) See the unknown as a good thing.
Fear of the unknown is one major factor in feeling disempowered. You’ve likely gotten used to seeing the “unknown” (anything you haven’t encountered before) as a bad thing, with dangers and pitfalls lurking around every corner. Most often you don’t even know why you feel fearful, you just believe there is reason to feel that way! However, if you instead shift that perception to one of optimism and enthusiasm for the unknown, you’ll feel less threatened and develop the willingness to do and dare more.
When it comes right down to it, empowerment is usually nothing more than a choice; being willing to believe that you are stronger than any challenge or difficulty that arises. The more you focus on releasing fearful thoughts and strengthening your belief in yourself, the less intimidated you’ll feel by outer influences.
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However, fear and empowerment are actually like two opposite sides of the same coin. On one side is the belief that you are not strong or capable enough to handle challenges or life in general; while on the other side is the certainty that you are fully in control of your own life and have the power to triumph over adversity.
Transforming fear to empowerment is as simple as flipping the coin so it lands on the other side! The “coin” in this example is a little thing called “perspective.”
In order to release fearful thoughts and become empowered, you need to be willing to see yourself and your life circumstances in a different light. Here are three easy ways to start:
1) Start small!
Many people believe that in order to empower themselves they need to have massive amounts of courage and inner strength, but that usually comes later. Instead, be willing to start small and empower yourself more gradually. Start with one small action that makes you feel nervous and nudge yourself to move forward and do it. As you face your fear and master one small challenge, you’ll begin to feel stronger and be willing to take on more, which will continue to build your strength and empower you.
2) Affirm your strength.
Fearful thoughts often cause you to doubt yourself, which creates more fearful thoughts! To reverse this, begin affirming that you’re strong and capable as often as possible – and most especially when you begin to feel disempowered. Affirm not only your strength and capability, but your flexibility, resiliency and resourcefulness to handle anything that comes your way. The more you affirm it, the more you’ll begin to believe it.
3) See the unknown as a good thing.
Fear of the unknown is one major factor in feeling disempowered. You’ve likely gotten used to seeing the “unknown” (anything you haven’t encountered before) as a bad thing, with dangers and pitfalls lurking around every corner. Most often you don’t even know why you feel fearful, you just believe there is reason to feel that way! However, if you instead shift that perception to one of optimism and enthusiasm for the unknown, you’ll feel less threatened and develop the willingness to do and dare more.
When it comes right down to it, empowerment is usually nothing more than a choice; being willing to believe that you are stronger than any challenge or difficulty that arises. The more you focus on releasing fearful thoughts and strengthening your belief in yourself, the less intimidated you’ll feel by outer influences.
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Wednesday, July 23, 2008
Empower Yourself with Positive Self-Talk
The way you speak to yourself mentally and verbally has a powerful impact on your self-image. Berating or belittling yourself, minimizing your achievements or doubting your capabilities will most definitely create a sense of disempowerment, limiting your potential in virtually every aspect of your life.
On the other hand, positive and encouraging self-talk will contribute to inner strength and self-respect, which will drastically alter the way you see yourself and your potential in life.
Self-talk is like a recording that constantly plays in your mind, and much of the time you’re unaware of it because it occurs on a subconscious level. The messages you receive from this recording can include limiting beliefs that were formed throughout your lifetime, as well as negative or derogatory input from your present environment.
The good news is that these recorded messages CAN be changed! It’s even quite simple to do, but requires commitment, determination and consistent effort.
Below are a few simple ways you can use positive self-talk to change your mental recording and empower yourself:
Build yourself up.
If you’ve gotten used to tearing yourself down, you may not even notice how harshly you speak to yourself – but you’ll find yourself feeling sad, frustrated or guilty without understanding why.
To turn this around, you simply need to begin making a conscious choice to build yourself up as often as possible. Get into the habit of speaking encouragingly and expressing positive thoughts about yourself. For example, rather than saying, “Oh, you are such an idiot!” when you make a mistake, say, “Hey, that’s all right, everyone makes mistakes! Next time you’ll do better.”
Look at yourself in the mirror daily and find three positive things to say about yourself. You can compliment your physical features, personality traits or accomplishments – but be sure they are genuine compliments because your subconscious mind will know if you’re “lying.”
Most importantly, make it a daily habit to speak to yourself like you would a good friend who is in need of support and encouragement. You’d never say horrible, mean things to them, so don’t say them to yourself either!
Cheer yourself on.
Rather than dreading a difficult task and doubting your capabilities, become your own best cheerleader! When you’re getting ready to tackle something challenging, take a few minutes to scream and shout mentally that “you can do it; you can do it; you can do it!”
Also, be sure to regularly praise yourself for a job well done. These don’t have to be big accomplishments – just something to which you gave your best effort. For example, you could say to yourself, “I’m really proud of the way I handled that rude customer. I kept my cool and remained professional while I handled the problem.” Or, “I’m so proud of myself for finishing that project before deadline! Now I’ve got a couple of hours I can devote to myself, and I definitely deserve some downtime.”
Love, love, love yourself.
We often have the perception that self-love will happen naturally once we change something about ourselves (like losing weight or achieving a goal) but self-love has to come first! Begin expressing love for yourself exactly as you are on a regular basis. Love yourself not for the things you’ve done or plan to do, but WHO you are. Love your uniqueness, your personality, your character traits and everything else that makes you who you are. The more you love yourself, the stronger and more positive you’ll feel about your life.
You may feel silly following some of these suggestions at first because they’re likely different from the way you normally treat yourself. But the more you work with them and focus on having fun with them, the more effective they’ll be in erasing those old, negative messages and replacing them with more positive, empowering messages.
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On the other hand, positive and encouraging self-talk will contribute to inner strength and self-respect, which will drastically alter the way you see yourself and your potential in life.
Self-talk is like a recording that constantly plays in your mind, and much of the time you’re unaware of it because it occurs on a subconscious level. The messages you receive from this recording can include limiting beliefs that were formed throughout your lifetime, as well as negative or derogatory input from your present environment.
The good news is that these recorded messages CAN be changed! It’s even quite simple to do, but requires commitment, determination and consistent effort.
Below are a few simple ways you can use positive self-talk to change your mental recording and empower yourself:
Build yourself up.
If you’ve gotten used to tearing yourself down, you may not even notice how harshly you speak to yourself – but you’ll find yourself feeling sad, frustrated or guilty without understanding why.
To turn this around, you simply need to begin making a conscious choice to build yourself up as often as possible. Get into the habit of speaking encouragingly and expressing positive thoughts about yourself. For example, rather than saying, “Oh, you are such an idiot!” when you make a mistake, say, “Hey, that’s all right, everyone makes mistakes! Next time you’ll do better.”
Look at yourself in the mirror daily and find three positive things to say about yourself. You can compliment your physical features, personality traits or accomplishments – but be sure they are genuine compliments because your subconscious mind will know if you’re “lying.”
Most importantly, make it a daily habit to speak to yourself like you would a good friend who is in need of support and encouragement. You’d never say horrible, mean things to them, so don’t say them to yourself either!
Cheer yourself on.
Rather than dreading a difficult task and doubting your capabilities, become your own best cheerleader! When you’re getting ready to tackle something challenging, take a few minutes to scream and shout mentally that “you can do it; you can do it; you can do it!”
Also, be sure to regularly praise yourself for a job well done. These don’t have to be big accomplishments – just something to which you gave your best effort. For example, you could say to yourself, “I’m really proud of the way I handled that rude customer. I kept my cool and remained professional while I handled the problem.” Or, “I’m so proud of myself for finishing that project before deadline! Now I’ve got a couple of hours I can devote to myself, and I definitely deserve some downtime.”
Love, love, love yourself.
We often have the perception that self-love will happen naturally once we change something about ourselves (like losing weight or achieving a goal) but self-love has to come first! Begin expressing love for yourself exactly as you are on a regular basis. Love yourself not for the things you’ve done or plan to do, but WHO you are. Love your uniqueness, your personality, your character traits and everything else that makes you who you are. The more you love yourself, the stronger and more positive you’ll feel about your life.
You may feel silly following some of these suggestions at first because they’re likely different from the way you normally treat yourself. But the more you work with them and focus on having fun with them, the more effective they’ll be in erasing those old, negative messages and replacing them with more positive, empowering messages.
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How to Set Personal Boundaries
Living your life as an empowered person often requires the placement of boundaries – invisible “lines” across which you will not allow people or events to infringe upon your time or resources.
When you have clear inner boundaries in place, you know where you stand and you’re able to make decisions that support and nurture you. These decisions may include refusing extra obligations that you do not have the time or desire to fulfill, keeping a greater distance between you and people who tend to drain your energy, or insisting that others respect your personal time.
A disempowered person will usually find it difficult to set boundaries because they don’t feel that they have the right to do so, or the strength to stand firm in their decisions. Does that describe you?
If so, read on for some simple and painless ways to set firmer boundaries in your life:
1) First, understand that you have the right to set boundaries. This can be difficult if you struggle with low self-esteem or self-confidence. You might hesitate to set boundaries because you’re afraid that people won’t like you, or you’ll hurt someone’s feelings by refusing their requests for help. However, more often than not your own feelings will be hurt if you don’t set boundaries! You’ll find yourself agreeing to do things you really don’t want to do or don’t have time to do, and you’ll run yourself ragged trying to please everyone. Setting boundaries involves learning to love and respect yourself, and your time and resources.
Get into the habit of affirming your own value and worth, and strengthen your belief that you deserve to live a calmer, more peaceful life. Be committed to caring for yourself first, and then helping others as time allows. Remind yourself that you don’t have to feel guilty about not saving the world – do what you can and feel good about it.
2) Build up your courage. Learning to say “no” can be scary, but it’s important to believe that you have the strength and confidence to stand firm in your decisions. One good way to become more courageous is to understand that nothing bad will happen if you refuse extra obligations or favors that someone asks of you. Will they be disappointed? Probably. Will they stop speaking to you or get angry with you? Probably not. Except in extreme circumstances, most often the person will simply move on and ask someone else for help.
If you do happen to receive a strong negative reaction when saying no, ask yourself if it really matters to you? That may sound harsh, but you have to eventually realize that it’s not your job to make life easier for others – especially when doing so makes life more difficult for you! A person who gets angry about your unwillingness to help is probably a person who has gotten comfortable using you as a doormat. In those cases it’s best to nip the problem in the bud before it takes over your life.
3) Be firm, but nice. One of the reasons you may hesitate to say no is because you think it will make you look “bitchy” or selfish – but that can be avoided by finding a pleasant way to say it. Rather than saying brusquely, “No, I won’t help you with this,” you could say apologetically, “I’m really sorry, but I just can’t do it at this time. Maybe another time?” The majority of people will understand and not be upset. However, if you do receive resistance, that is the time to become more firm in your answers.
One of the hardest parts of setting boundaries is learning to be firm with yourself! You may be tempted to overextend yourself to help others, even when you know it wouldn’t be in your best interests. When that temptation arises, you’ll have to be able to override your desire to please and do what you know is best for yourself.
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When you have clear inner boundaries in place, you know where you stand and you’re able to make decisions that support and nurture you. These decisions may include refusing extra obligations that you do not have the time or desire to fulfill, keeping a greater distance between you and people who tend to drain your energy, or insisting that others respect your personal time.
A disempowered person will usually find it difficult to set boundaries because they don’t feel that they have the right to do so, or the strength to stand firm in their decisions. Does that describe you?
If so, read on for some simple and painless ways to set firmer boundaries in your life:
1) First, understand that you have the right to set boundaries. This can be difficult if you struggle with low self-esteem or self-confidence. You might hesitate to set boundaries because you’re afraid that people won’t like you, or you’ll hurt someone’s feelings by refusing their requests for help. However, more often than not your own feelings will be hurt if you don’t set boundaries! You’ll find yourself agreeing to do things you really don’t want to do or don’t have time to do, and you’ll run yourself ragged trying to please everyone. Setting boundaries involves learning to love and respect yourself, and your time and resources.
Get into the habit of affirming your own value and worth, and strengthen your belief that you deserve to live a calmer, more peaceful life. Be committed to caring for yourself first, and then helping others as time allows. Remind yourself that you don’t have to feel guilty about not saving the world – do what you can and feel good about it.
2) Build up your courage. Learning to say “no” can be scary, but it’s important to believe that you have the strength and confidence to stand firm in your decisions. One good way to become more courageous is to understand that nothing bad will happen if you refuse extra obligations or favors that someone asks of you. Will they be disappointed? Probably. Will they stop speaking to you or get angry with you? Probably not. Except in extreme circumstances, most often the person will simply move on and ask someone else for help.
If you do happen to receive a strong negative reaction when saying no, ask yourself if it really matters to you? That may sound harsh, but you have to eventually realize that it’s not your job to make life easier for others – especially when doing so makes life more difficult for you! A person who gets angry about your unwillingness to help is probably a person who has gotten comfortable using you as a doormat. In those cases it’s best to nip the problem in the bud before it takes over your life.
3) Be firm, but nice. One of the reasons you may hesitate to say no is because you think it will make you look “bitchy” or selfish – but that can be avoided by finding a pleasant way to say it. Rather than saying brusquely, “No, I won’t help you with this,” you could say apologetically, “I’m really sorry, but I just can’t do it at this time. Maybe another time?” The majority of people will understand and not be upset. However, if you do receive resistance, that is the time to become more firm in your answers.
One of the hardest parts of setting boundaries is learning to be firm with yourself! You may be tempted to overextend yourself to help others, even when you know it wouldn’t be in your best interests. When that temptation arises, you’ll have to be able to override your desire to please and do what you know is best for yourself.
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Aim a Little Higher
Are you struggling to stay motivated on your journey to success? Have your goals lost some of the shine they had when you first set them? If so, you might consider whether they are big enough to keep your interest.
You may have thought so at one time but if they’re not what you really want deep down inside, you’re probably trying to force yourself to settle for what you think you can get.
There’s an easy solution to this problem: Aim Higher!
Set a goal that’s so big and impressive that it gets your heart pumping and sweat popping out on your brow; a goal that seems almost impossible but would dramatically change your life if you were able to achieve it.
Does that get the fire burning in your heart and soul?
If so, take some time right now to clarify your new goal. Write it out in detail and sketch out a plan of action to go for it. List as many reasons as possible why you think you can accomplish this goal – and be specific! Think of any past accomplishments and what it took to achieve them. What kept you going? How badly did you want it, and what were you willing to do to achieve it?
Don’t allow fear or hesitation to seep into your mind!
You may be interested to know that it’s very common for people to underestimate their capabilities. You have a fixed perception of your limitations, and you’ve probably never thought much about raising the bar, right? If you’re like most people, you’ll be nodding in agreement to that question.
The truth is, you could probably blow your limitations sky high with only a teensy bit of effort and focus. This is especially true if you’re going after something that you want badly.
When you’ve chosen a larger goal and made it your mission to achieve it, you’ll have no shortage of motivation! You’ll be challenged beyond anything you’ve ever experienced before, and you’ll revel in the opportunity to prove yourself.
With each step you take toward a successful outcome, your determination and confidence will grow and you’ll wonder why you ever held yourself back.
Even better, once you accomplish this new goal, you will have set a higher standard of excellence for yourself and you’ll go on to achieve even greater goals later. You won’t be able to help it; you’ll be addicted to the thrill of victory!
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You may have thought so at one time but if they’re not what you really want deep down inside, you’re probably trying to force yourself to settle for what you think you can get.
There’s an easy solution to this problem: Aim Higher!
Set a goal that’s so big and impressive that it gets your heart pumping and sweat popping out on your brow; a goal that seems almost impossible but would dramatically change your life if you were able to achieve it.
Does that get the fire burning in your heart and soul?
If so, take some time right now to clarify your new goal. Write it out in detail and sketch out a plan of action to go for it. List as many reasons as possible why you think you can accomplish this goal – and be specific! Think of any past accomplishments and what it took to achieve them. What kept you going? How badly did you want it, and what were you willing to do to achieve it?
Don’t allow fear or hesitation to seep into your mind!
You may be interested to know that it’s very common for people to underestimate their capabilities. You have a fixed perception of your limitations, and you’ve probably never thought much about raising the bar, right? If you’re like most people, you’ll be nodding in agreement to that question.
The truth is, you could probably blow your limitations sky high with only a teensy bit of effort and focus. This is especially true if you’re going after something that you want badly.
When you’ve chosen a larger goal and made it your mission to achieve it, you’ll have no shortage of motivation! You’ll be challenged beyond anything you’ve ever experienced before, and you’ll revel in the opportunity to prove yourself.
With each step you take toward a successful outcome, your determination and confidence will grow and you’ll wonder why you ever held yourself back.
Even better, once you accomplish this new goal, you will have set a higher standard of excellence for yourself and you’ll go on to achieve even greater goals later. You won’t be able to help it; you’ll be addicted to the thrill of victory!
About The Author Iain Legg is now giving away Gold membership at his Success Library. Get $218.45 worth of success motivation ebooks and audios for free at http://www.yourinstantsuccesslibrary.com. Including free self hypnosis and brain entrainment audios.
Discover the Passion Within You
The benefit of continued focus on spirituality information is that you are eventually led to the individual passion that lies within you. Part of the process of your spiritual growth is to discover this passion and then bring it forth and live your passion.
Some people are guided to discover their passion early in the human life process. We have all heard of child prodigies who have developed musical skills at a very early age and, along with those skills, they have a deep burning desire to develop and demonstrate those skills. That is passion demonstrated.
Well, we all have something like that within us. We all have our own song within us that yearns to be heard and demonstrated. We all have a particular aspect of love that we have chosen before birth that we are being guided by throughout our lives.
What is your passion? There are as many ways to demonstrate love as there are people on the planet. We are like snowflakes. From afar we all look just like snow but the closer we examine the snow the more we come to understand that every snowflake has its own unique signature. We all have our particular way to demonstrate that unique aspect of our beingness that can only be manifested in our own unprecedented manner. No two snowflakes are alike. No two passions are exactly the same. There is room in this world for all the snowflakes and there is room in this world for all the passions.
We have our overall purpose in life and we also have a more specific purpose in life. Our overall purpose in life is to just experience the life process, in the physical relative world, in order for God to know, through our experiences, all that she knows of as concepts. That is our mission. That is our way to occupy the space and develop the skills and the capacity to fulfill our larger purpose. This overall purpose is the backdrop on our stage of life upon which we are to develop, nurture and refine our more specific purpose.
We chose our specific purpose before birth. It is in this inborn privatized mission that we are continually being guided by the omnipresent organizing force that brings to us those people, places and information that we need to develop the specific purpose that we chose before birth.
Let's take a look at the big picture again. One of the huge dichotomies that is part of this eternal life process is this simple, yet incredibly complex, concept that we voluntarily forget that we are a spirit child of God before we re-enter the physical universe. When you look at this concept from the bigger picture of life, you can understand how this would be a necessary element to make the whole process work.
If God's purpose were to experience all the different aspects and perspectives of herself that she only knows of conceptually, then she would have to have the true freedom to do that.
Let's look at the alternative to this voluntary amnesia. If we, as spirit children of God, just entered this physical plane via our human birth and were raised and nurtured as pure Gods and Goddesses, knowing from the very outset of our cognitive stage of life that we are a spirit child of God, then that is all we would know.
If we already knew, in our consciousness, all there is to know then what is left to experience? We would always make the most correct choices because we would always know the natural consequences of not doing so. We wouldn't be able to choose to be who we are because we would already be who we really are, spirit children of God.
So here's the dichotomy. Even though we would be limitless beings, who know that they are spirit children of God with all of the same powers and abilities and knowledge of God, that very knowingness would actually limit us in our stated purpose of experiencing in the physical plane all that God knows as concepts in the absolute plane.
We wouldn't choose to have the craziness and dramas that develop and define ourselves. We wouldn't chose sickness or death and we therefore would not have those experiences. You see, you can't appreciate the concept of good health without experiencing the concept of poor health.
It is this relationship world of polar opposites that allows us to experience life in all of its different perspectives, from one extreme to the other. If you know all there is to know, including the natural consequences of your actions, then even with free will you wouldn't chose those experiences that would be harmful or not beneficial to your overall good.
That is the beauty of this voluntary amnesia that we agree to when we choose to re-enter the physical relative universe. You still have free will, but now you are totally at choice as to what you choose to experience. Each choice you make still brings you the natural consequence of that choice, whether it is what we term bad or good.
Now it is entirely up to you to determine which natural consequences serve you and which do not serve you. It is your choice. It has always been your choice.
About The Author Richard Blackstone is an award winning author and international speaker on Love, Oneness & Creation. Journey into discovery of Self by reading this FREE report; "The 3 Simple Immutable Laws of the Universe" at: http://www.NutsandBoltsSpirituality.com
Some people are guided to discover their passion early in the human life process. We have all heard of child prodigies who have developed musical skills at a very early age and, along with those skills, they have a deep burning desire to develop and demonstrate those skills. That is passion demonstrated.
Well, we all have something like that within us. We all have our own song within us that yearns to be heard and demonstrated. We all have a particular aspect of love that we have chosen before birth that we are being guided by throughout our lives.
What is your passion? There are as many ways to demonstrate love as there are people on the planet. We are like snowflakes. From afar we all look just like snow but the closer we examine the snow the more we come to understand that every snowflake has its own unique signature. We all have our particular way to demonstrate that unique aspect of our beingness that can only be manifested in our own unprecedented manner. No two snowflakes are alike. No two passions are exactly the same. There is room in this world for all the snowflakes and there is room in this world for all the passions.
We have our overall purpose in life and we also have a more specific purpose in life. Our overall purpose in life is to just experience the life process, in the physical relative world, in order for God to know, through our experiences, all that she knows of as concepts. That is our mission. That is our way to occupy the space and develop the skills and the capacity to fulfill our larger purpose. This overall purpose is the backdrop on our stage of life upon which we are to develop, nurture and refine our more specific purpose.
We chose our specific purpose before birth. It is in this inborn privatized mission that we are continually being guided by the omnipresent organizing force that brings to us those people, places and information that we need to develop the specific purpose that we chose before birth.
Let's take a look at the big picture again. One of the huge dichotomies that is part of this eternal life process is this simple, yet incredibly complex, concept that we voluntarily forget that we are a spirit child of God before we re-enter the physical universe. When you look at this concept from the bigger picture of life, you can understand how this would be a necessary element to make the whole process work.
If God's purpose were to experience all the different aspects and perspectives of herself that she only knows of conceptually, then she would have to have the true freedom to do that.
Let's look at the alternative to this voluntary amnesia. If we, as spirit children of God, just entered this physical plane via our human birth and were raised and nurtured as pure Gods and Goddesses, knowing from the very outset of our cognitive stage of life that we are a spirit child of God, then that is all we would know.
If we already knew, in our consciousness, all there is to know then what is left to experience? We would always make the most correct choices because we would always know the natural consequences of not doing so. We wouldn't be able to choose to be who we are because we would already be who we really are, spirit children of God.
So here's the dichotomy. Even though we would be limitless beings, who know that they are spirit children of God with all of the same powers and abilities and knowledge of God, that very knowingness would actually limit us in our stated purpose of experiencing in the physical plane all that God knows as concepts in the absolute plane.
We wouldn't choose to have the craziness and dramas that develop and define ourselves. We wouldn't chose sickness or death and we therefore would not have those experiences. You see, you can't appreciate the concept of good health without experiencing the concept of poor health.
It is this relationship world of polar opposites that allows us to experience life in all of its different perspectives, from one extreme to the other. If you know all there is to know, including the natural consequences of your actions, then even with free will you wouldn't chose those experiences that would be harmful or not beneficial to your overall good.
That is the beauty of this voluntary amnesia that we agree to when we choose to re-enter the physical relative universe. You still have free will, but now you are totally at choice as to what you choose to experience. Each choice you make still brings you the natural consequence of that choice, whether it is what we term bad or good.
Now it is entirely up to you to determine which natural consequences serve you and which do not serve you. It is your choice. It has always been your choice.
About The Author Richard Blackstone is an award winning author and international speaker on Love, Oneness & Creation. Journey into discovery of Self by reading this FREE report; "The 3 Simple Immutable Laws of the Universe" at: http://www.NutsandBoltsSpirituality.com
Discover Where Your Ego Dwells
Dealing with your ego is part of your spiritual growth. Use this spirituality information to understand where the ego hangs out so that you can gain more understanding about the ego and how to avoid its influence. Seek the influence of the ego's counter-balancing force, your sacred self.
I hate to be redundant, but I love Albert Einstein for being such an enlightened messenger and what he had to say about how influential our thoughts are. Remember this? “You can't get any revolutionary ideas by thinking the same thoughts that you have been thinking. You have to change the way you are thinking and think different thoughts.”
If it was important enough for Albert Einstein to think this way then, personally, that is good enough for me. In fact, changing my way of thinking and thinking different thoughts is how I got to a point in my life where I was able to sit down and write a book. Now that's a revolutionary idea, isn't it? Do you have a book inside you? Do you have a song in you that needs to get out and be heard? Do you have a passion in you that is trying to break through and reach the forefront of your thinking and desires?
Methinks that you do. There is a revolution that is going on inside you and you need to take some time to listen to yourself and nurture the voice that beckons you to reveal to yourself what you truly desire.
I am not speaking about what the talking heads on the television are telling you to desire. I am not speaking about what your parents told you to desire. I am not speaking about what Charlie, down at the neighborhood pub, told you to desire. I am speaking about what your inner guidance system is trying to reveal to you.
But let's not be mistaken here because there are two heads to this inner voice that is trying to break through. One voice belongs to your ego and the other voice belongs to your sacred self.
Remember how we live in a universe of relativity? Remember how we learned that everything in this physical universe is in relationship to everything else? Well, that inner voice inside our heads is no different than anything else in this world of relativity.
At one end of the spectrum is our ego and at the other end is our sacred self. The ego is tied to the philosophy that we are separate from each other, separate from all other things in the universe and separate from God. The sacred self is tied to the philosophy that we are all one with each other, one with all things in the universe and one with God. Our lives exist between the margins.
The ego is part of the human make-up and will be with us whenever we dwell in the realm of the physical and live within this concept we know of as time because the ego only exists in our past memories or our future imaginings. The ego cannot exist in the present moment of now. That is where the spirit dwells. When we return to the realm of the absolute, everything reverts back to the love that is the core of our being and the ego disappears because we are once again in full knowledge that we are one with the source of all that exists and there is no concept such as time. There is only the present moment of now and the ego cannot exist in this environment.
Right now we are living in this physical universe, ergo the ego is very much a part of our make-up, but we must also remember that the sacred self is just as much a part of our beingness as the ego. Unfortunately, we have been conditioned so much by our society to listen to, and take the advice of, our ego that we don't think about our sacred self too much.
The reason for this preponderance of ego-based thinking is that most people do not dwell in the present moment. We are conditioned to live in the past or the future. The more you are able to live in the present moment the more you will be able to lose the influence of the ego and listen to your sacred self, or spirit.
About The Author Richard Blackstone is an award winning author and international speaker on Love, Oneness & Creation. Journey into discovery of Self by reading this FREE report; "The 3 Simple Immutable Laws of the Universe" at: http://www.NutsandBoltsSpirituality.com
I hate to be redundant, but I love Albert Einstein for being such an enlightened messenger and what he had to say about how influential our thoughts are. Remember this? “You can't get any revolutionary ideas by thinking the same thoughts that you have been thinking. You have to change the way you are thinking and think different thoughts.”
If it was important enough for Albert Einstein to think this way then, personally, that is good enough for me. In fact, changing my way of thinking and thinking different thoughts is how I got to a point in my life where I was able to sit down and write a book. Now that's a revolutionary idea, isn't it? Do you have a book inside you? Do you have a song in you that needs to get out and be heard? Do you have a passion in you that is trying to break through and reach the forefront of your thinking and desires?
Methinks that you do. There is a revolution that is going on inside you and you need to take some time to listen to yourself and nurture the voice that beckons you to reveal to yourself what you truly desire.
I am not speaking about what the talking heads on the television are telling you to desire. I am not speaking about what your parents told you to desire. I am not speaking about what Charlie, down at the neighborhood pub, told you to desire. I am speaking about what your inner guidance system is trying to reveal to you.
But let's not be mistaken here because there are two heads to this inner voice that is trying to break through. One voice belongs to your ego and the other voice belongs to your sacred self.
Remember how we live in a universe of relativity? Remember how we learned that everything in this physical universe is in relationship to everything else? Well, that inner voice inside our heads is no different than anything else in this world of relativity.
At one end of the spectrum is our ego and at the other end is our sacred self. The ego is tied to the philosophy that we are separate from each other, separate from all other things in the universe and separate from God. The sacred self is tied to the philosophy that we are all one with each other, one with all things in the universe and one with God. Our lives exist between the margins.
The ego is part of the human make-up and will be with us whenever we dwell in the realm of the physical and live within this concept we know of as time because the ego only exists in our past memories or our future imaginings. The ego cannot exist in the present moment of now. That is where the spirit dwells. When we return to the realm of the absolute, everything reverts back to the love that is the core of our being and the ego disappears because we are once again in full knowledge that we are one with the source of all that exists and there is no concept such as time. There is only the present moment of now and the ego cannot exist in this environment.
Right now we are living in this physical universe, ergo the ego is very much a part of our make-up, but we must also remember that the sacred self is just as much a part of our beingness as the ego. Unfortunately, we have been conditioned so much by our society to listen to, and take the advice of, our ego that we don't think about our sacred self too much.
The reason for this preponderance of ego-based thinking is that most people do not dwell in the present moment. We are conditioned to live in the past or the future. The more you are able to live in the present moment the more you will be able to lose the influence of the ego and listen to your sacred self, or spirit.
About The Author Richard Blackstone is an award winning author and international speaker on Love, Oneness & Creation. Journey into discovery of Self by reading this FREE report; "The 3 Simple Immutable Laws of the Universe" at: http://www.NutsandBoltsSpirituality.com
How Do You Create You Own Luck? Five Practical Steps
Some of us may think that there are lucky or successful people and other who are unlucky or losers, they think that if you were loser then you have no luck and if you were successful then of course you must have luck in all your life matter.
But, what do we mean by luck?
Luck is only the chances law which move through your control over the circumstances, events and people around you. You can move it up or down, increase or decrease the probabilities of reaching the desired results.
As during a certain period either month, year or years, you have made a group of small assignments ( which we will call inputs) these inputs led at the end of this period to certain results ( we will call it outputs).
So there is no lucky person; only someone who achieve many tasks and missions and control over many circumstances, events and people, doing so can raise the possibility of achieving the desired results which was set in the first place.
But, what some may call luck ( like winning a big prize, inherit a wealthy relatives or even winning a horse gamble) is not luck at all, it is only a coincident or chances were the achieved results is not under your control and you have no influence on it, because it is too risky and your chances to win it on the long run is merely zero, despite the fact that luck depends on your inputs and is under your control in every ways.
- Now you have to know how to make your own luck and how to control all the elements around you to raise the possibility of getting the results you want which some may call luck and I call consequences of your work.
- Also, you have to know how to make the possibilities law works for your benefit and not the opposite.
- Finally, you have to be free from randomly and uncertainty.
Here are five steps to do so:
1- You have to prepare a complete study to all the knowledge, skills and possibilities which you need to do a certain job ad apply this study by all means, therefore, you’ll raise the chances of your success in this job.
2- Be sure you can get whatever you want from life no matter how hard and difficult it is, just do everything possible to increase probabilities of getting it, no matter small what you do it may make a difference in future either by success or failure in getting what you want.
3- Organize your life, don’t live it hazard, put a plan for your life, a plan you will follow to raise probabilities of achieving your target. State your goals and how you will accomplish them, what is the events, things and people you will require to manage all parts of your life. Don’t leave anything to circumstances, use your full abilities and create your own life, as you are the one who make luck and you are the one who control it to your benefit or otherwise.
4- Follow the steps of successful people or what they call lucky people, do what they do to get the same results.
5- Work what you love and choose from jobs what suits your abilities, skills and your natural talents, and don’t do tasks beyond your abilities hoping for better results. Always make the right inputs to get the desired results or the right outputs. Everyday, increase what you can achieve in the job you wish to be successful at, to get final outputs as consequences to your work and not a matter of chance or luck.
And always REMEMBER that God never waste the reward of your hard work.
Who work will find and who seed will harvest.
God says in his holy Qur’an “And no one will be granted such goodness except those who exercise patience and self-restraint,- none but persons of the greatest good fortune” Fusalat. So there is a reason to be patient which is the great luck in the end ( meaning the great share of reward by God), and the relationship between cause and result is what make luck, as luck in the Arabic language means the destiny or results of work.
This is because God never create anything in life without a cause, as God says ’Allah created the heavens and the earth for just ends, and in order that each soul may find the recompense of what it has earned, and none of them be wronged” Al Gathya. Just by stated and calculated rules which luck has no role in it.
And not because we didn’t discover these rules it doesn’t exist, it exists despite our ignorance of it, and God may reveal it or not according to his will and for human benefits.
As God advise Mariam "And shake towards thyself the trunk of the palm-tree: It will let fall fresh ripe dates upon thee" but if he wishes he could easily through the rips on her but everything must have a reason.
So your life is the results of your inputs in a certain period and your luck is your share from your work as God never be injustice to any of his worshipers and what people claim about luck is mere excuses to justify their failure in moving their life to the better.
I searched the internet and found a division for luck. According to them there is two kinds of luck- one is inner and the other is external - and I’ll explain it as I read, and at the end I’ll prove that there is no place for luck in life and that your life is the fruits of your hand.
First Kind: The Inner Luck
Is defined as the individual human gifts which came by inheritance like:
A- The physical beauty and harmony; which enable many people to reach their goals like sports men or beautiful ladies.
B- The intellectual superiority and intelligence.
C- Energetic power; which appear in fighting obstacles and patience, And This is what provide the person with determination and make him try harder every time he fail to accomplish a matter and thus prevent him from feeling failure and defeated.
D- The hunch, or the sixth sense; which qualify its owner to choose the right options in the mysteries situations and make him understand the events before it happened. Etc…..
Second kind: External luck
This is what stands outside the individual physical abilities like:
The environment :
We usually find that the high cultural atmosphere push its people to get more cultural and also the organized family grow in the children the of love being organized from childhood and vise versa, when we find a very poor cultured surroundings, this may be obstacle in the intellectual development of its individuals.
The materiality means:
The more it exists in a family or surroundings, the more these individuals have the chance to acquire more social, educational and cultural ranks.
Beside having the fund, owning a successful social relationship helps to acquire a high level.
Now, if we search through these kinds of luck we will find the following:
The physical beauty and harmony:
If you search through all the mankind history you will find many famous characters who didn’t have any beauty or harmony in their bodies on the contrary they may lack some of these qualities or they may represent the opposite of them, you will find them get advantage from being less beautiful than others or from having disharmony in their bodies and they became famous because of that like( Ismail Yassin the most famous comedian in the Egyptian cinema who make use of his features to present a wonderful comedy that still exists until now) can I ask you now if he was handsome?!
The intellectual superiority and intelligence:
The most intelligent people may not use their intelligent to achieve their aims and the less intelligent people may use this limited intelligent to be more successful in their life than the intelligent.
The environment and surroundings:
Didn’t you see before a poor person who succeed in his study and progress in his work?!
Didn’t you see before a rich person who is failure in his study and his work despite having every thing available for him?!
You must had seen this before, so I don’t have to say this again, just observe another time it is only working hard that raise the probabilities of reaching the desired targets.
Now you can measure that to all other kinds of luck and you will find yourself canceling every elements one by one. Just remember your luck is your share from your work and as much as you seed you will harvest, so seed flowers and roses to harvest the life beauty and happiness.
My advice to you to be more lucky than others, you must watch the followings:
- Trust in God: as everything happened or will happen to you in your life is for your good, either you know it or not.
- Knowledge: increase your cultural and educational knowledge as it gives you power in everything you want to achieve.
- Good relationship: the best and fastest way to acquire good relationship is the good manner.
- Be determined: as nothing stands against determination, it creates the influence upon reality.
- Imagine the results (pretend that you are the most lucky person): as prophet Mohammed PBUH says - that the learning is by learn, the tolerance is by being tolerant and that the patience is by being patient- so pretend that you are lucky and you will find all the doors open for you.
- Thank God for his blessings: God says ( if you thank I’ll increase the blessings) and who is more sincere than God?! So if you want to be lucky, thank God for your share in life.
And before I finish this article I want you to repeat these words every day:
-Now I’ll make my own share and luck in life. -Now I’m controlling all details of my life. -Now I’m moving every element to my benefit. -Now I deserve all the success in my life and future. -Now I’m capable of achieving whatever I want.
Reverences: *holy Qur’an *Draw your future for Prain Tracy *Researches and articles. *Article in self developments http://www.articleslist.net
About The Author Amany Mohamed, Researcher in Metaphysical science, writer of many important issues (skills success - the spiritual guidance - Self-healing etc.)supervised on one of the articles sites http://www.ArticlesList.net, writer for the Arab News Network http://www.ArabNet5.com "Arabic Site" and a Supervisor of the medical site http://www.EdoctorOnline.com.
Copyright by Amany Mohamed, You can publish this article for free, provided you should include the resource box.
But, what do we mean by luck?
Luck is only the chances law which move through your control over the circumstances, events and people around you. You can move it up or down, increase or decrease the probabilities of reaching the desired results.
As during a certain period either month, year or years, you have made a group of small assignments ( which we will call inputs) these inputs led at the end of this period to certain results ( we will call it outputs).
So there is no lucky person; only someone who achieve many tasks and missions and control over many circumstances, events and people, doing so can raise the possibility of achieving the desired results which was set in the first place.
But, what some may call luck ( like winning a big prize, inherit a wealthy relatives or even winning a horse gamble) is not luck at all, it is only a coincident or chances were the achieved results is not under your control and you have no influence on it, because it is too risky and your chances to win it on the long run is merely zero, despite the fact that luck depends on your inputs and is under your control in every ways.
- Now you have to know how to make your own luck and how to control all the elements around you to raise the possibility of getting the results you want which some may call luck and I call consequences of your work.
- Also, you have to know how to make the possibilities law works for your benefit and not the opposite.
- Finally, you have to be free from randomly and uncertainty.
Here are five steps to do so:
1- You have to prepare a complete study to all the knowledge, skills and possibilities which you need to do a certain job ad apply this study by all means, therefore, you’ll raise the chances of your success in this job.
2- Be sure you can get whatever you want from life no matter how hard and difficult it is, just do everything possible to increase probabilities of getting it, no matter small what you do it may make a difference in future either by success or failure in getting what you want.
3- Organize your life, don’t live it hazard, put a plan for your life, a plan you will follow to raise probabilities of achieving your target. State your goals and how you will accomplish them, what is the events, things and people you will require to manage all parts of your life. Don’t leave anything to circumstances, use your full abilities and create your own life, as you are the one who make luck and you are the one who control it to your benefit or otherwise.
4- Follow the steps of successful people or what they call lucky people, do what they do to get the same results.
5- Work what you love and choose from jobs what suits your abilities, skills and your natural talents, and don’t do tasks beyond your abilities hoping for better results. Always make the right inputs to get the desired results or the right outputs. Everyday, increase what you can achieve in the job you wish to be successful at, to get final outputs as consequences to your work and not a matter of chance or luck.
And always REMEMBER that God never waste the reward of your hard work.
Who work will find and who seed will harvest.
God says in his holy Qur’an “And no one will be granted such goodness except those who exercise patience and self-restraint,- none but persons of the greatest good fortune” Fusalat. So there is a reason to be patient which is the great luck in the end ( meaning the great share of reward by God), and the relationship between cause and result is what make luck, as luck in the Arabic language means the destiny or results of work.
This is because God never create anything in life without a cause, as God says ’Allah created the heavens and the earth for just ends, and in order that each soul may find the recompense of what it has earned, and none of them be wronged” Al Gathya. Just by stated and calculated rules which luck has no role in it.
And not because we didn’t discover these rules it doesn’t exist, it exists despite our ignorance of it, and God may reveal it or not according to his will and for human benefits.
As God advise Mariam "And shake towards thyself the trunk of the palm-tree: It will let fall fresh ripe dates upon thee" but if he wishes he could easily through the rips on her but everything must have a reason.
So your life is the results of your inputs in a certain period and your luck is your share from your work as God never be injustice to any of his worshipers and what people claim about luck is mere excuses to justify their failure in moving their life to the better.
I searched the internet and found a division for luck. According to them there is two kinds of luck- one is inner and the other is external - and I’ll explain it as I read, and at the end I’ll prove that there is no place for luck in life and that your life is the fruits of your hand.
First Kind: The Inner Luck
Is defined as the individual human gifts which came by inheritance like:
A- The physical beauty and harmony; which enable many people to reach their goals like sports men or beautiful ladies.
B- The intellectual superiority and intelligence.
C- Energetic power; which appear in fighting obstacles and patience, And This is what provide the person with determination and make him try harder every time he fail to accomplish a matter and thus prevent him from feeling failure and defeated.
D- The hunch, or the sixth sense; which qualify its owner to choose the right options in the mysteries situations and make him understand the events before it happened. Etc…..
Second kind: External luck
This is what stands outside the individual physical abilities like:
The environment :
We usually find that the high cultural atmosphere push its people to get more cultural and also the organized family grow in the children the of love being organized from childhood and vise versa, when we find a very poor cultured surroundings, this may be obstacle in the intellectual development of its individuals.
The materiality means:
The more it exists in a family or surroundings, the more these individuals have the chance to acquire more social, educational and cultural ranks.
Beside having the fund, owning a successful social relationship helps to acquire a high level.
Now, if we search through these kinds of luck we will find the following:
The physical beauty and harmony:
If you search through all the mankind history you will find many famous characters who didn’t have any beauty or harmony in their bodies on the contrary they may lack some of these qualities or they may represent the opposite of them, you will find them get advantage from being less beautiful than others or from having disharmony in their bodies and they became famous because of that like( Ismail Yassin the most famous comedian in the Egyptian cinema who make use of his features to present a wonderful comedy that still exists until now) can I ask you now if he was handsome?!
The intellectual superiority and intelligence:
The most intelligent people may not use their intelligent to achieve their aims and the less intelligent people may use this limited intelligent to be more successful in their life than the intelligent.
The environment and surroundings:
Didn’t you see before a poor person who succeed in his study and progress in his work?!
Didn’t you see before a rich person who is failure in his study and his work despite having every thing available for him?!
You must had seen this before, so I don’t have to say this again, just observe another time it is only working hard that raise the probabilities of reaching the desired targets.
Now you can measure that to all other kinds of luck and you will find yourself canceling every elements one by one. Just remember your luck is your share from your work and as much as you seed you will harvest, so seed flowers and roses to harvest the life beauty and happiness.
My advice to you to be more lucky than others, you must watch the followings:
- Trust in God: as everything happened or will happen to you in your life is for your good, either you know it or not.
- Knowledge: increase your cultural and educational knowledge as it gives you power in everything you want to achieve.
- Good relationship: the best and fastest way to acquire good relationship is the good manner.
- Be determined: as nothing stands against determination, it creates the influence upon reality.
- Imagine the results (pretend that you are the most lucky person): as prophet Mohammed PBUH says - that the learning is by learn, the tolerance is by being tolerant and that the patience is by being patient- so pretend that you are lucky and you will find all the doors open for you.
- Thank God for his blessings: God says ( if you thank I’ll increase the blessings) and who is more sincere than God?! So if you want to be lucky, thank God for your share in life.
And before I finish this article I want you to repeat these words every day:
-Now I’ll make my own share and luck in life. -Now I’m controlling all details of my life. -Now I’m moving every element to my benefit. -Now I deserve all the success in my life and future. -Now I’m capable of achieving whatever I want.
Reverences: *holy Qur’an *Draw your future for Prain Tracy *Researches and articles. *Article in self developments http://www.articleslist.net
About The Author Amany Mohamed, Researcher in Metaphysical science, writer of many important issues (skills success - the spiritual guidance - Self-healing etc.)supervised on one of the articles sites http://www.ArticlesList.net, writer for the Arab News Network http://www.ArabNet5.com "Arabic Site" and a Supervisor of the medical site http://www.EdoctorOnline.com.
Copyright by Amany Mohamed, You can publish this article for free, provided you should include the resource box.
How To Quit Smoking
First off, consult a medical professional if you smoke or if you have any other addictions that may have deleterious effects.
If you smoke and have been thinking about quitting, or have tried quitting, then this article is for you. If you don’t smoke, but have some other addiction, then I also encourage you to read this article, as it’s theory can be used to quit other substances as well.
Quitting smoking is not all that difficult, if done properly. So many people fail to quit because of a lack of proper planning. Fail to plan and you plan to fail, as the saying goes. So how will you go about getting away from those tasty cancer sticks for good? If executed with the proper plan, quitting will not be agonizing, though you will experience some discomfort.
I'll skip telling you about how bad cigarettes are for you because you already know. You are bombarded with that information constantly.
I won’t tell you that you need to try some new nicotine patch or gum, or some other pill. These products just give you more of what you don’t want: nicotine. They are just a way for the drug companies to make more money. Don’t let them sell you on these. Quitting smoking requires no purchases.
So many people fail to quit each year because of a lack of planning. "I’m going to quit smoking" is not a plan. Not at all. Most of the time it does not work. This is because it is the goal, not the plan. If everyone who ever said or thought that actually quit, their would be very, very few smokers in our society. In fact, I suspect that the tobacco industry would have been reduced to a negligible size altogether. However, the tobacco industry remains massive because people do not quit through a strategic plan. These people are the bread-and-butter of the cigarette manufacturers.
Quitting smoking presents a challenge for two reasons:
1) Nicotine withdrawals. Nicotine is everything to the tobacco industry. Without nicotine, cigarettes would be no more addictive than chewing gum.
2) Taking smoking out of your day will be taking out an activity that is associated with taking a break, relaxing, or interacting socially with other smokers.
If we will be successful, we will have to address both of these challenges with a rigorous plan, but before I get to that plan I will go over the mind-set that is required for permanent termination of your habit.
This mind-set is made up of 3 parts:
1. Know that you will quit smoking. Think about this one for a while. Get used to envisioning yourself as a non smoker.
2. Know that you will have to quit eventually, or accept the likelihood of the onset of a terminal disease.
3. Know that the sooner you quit, the easier it will be to do so.
Let’s go over that last one a little. Often, as a smoker, you will have a cigarette sooner rather than later simply to avoid the onset of a craving. Cravings can be quite uncomfortable, as any smoker will tell you. So, you become proactive in your approach in that you will have the cigarette before the craving becomes uncomfortable. If you have one now, then you won’t need one as badly later on, so your thinking goes.
The problem with this way of thinking is that it is exactly wrong. The nicotine has tricked your subconscious mind into such rationalizing. The reality is that each and every time you have a cigarette, you are reenforcing your addiction and thus making it stronger. If your cigarette smoking has resulted in an addiction, then it follows that with every cigarette you have you are increasing the addiction. In the long run, there is no such thing as having a cigarette to alleviate craving. Sure, you are making yourself feel satisfied by having the cigarette, but the satisfaction is temporary. With every cigarette you have, you will crave the next one that much more. This progression can be very subtle, which is why nicotine addiction can creep up on so many people. They become addicted before they know it.
>From this logic follows the required mind-set in which you will know that the sooner you quit, the easier it will be to do so. Never the less, you should not start the quitting process until you have mentally prepared yourself by mulling over all three steps for a while until you get used to them, with an emphasis on step #1. (Envisioning yourself as a non-smoker).
Now that we have the proper mind-set in place, we may go about formulating a plan for addressing your addiction to the drug itself (nicotine). If you've tried quitting in the past and failed, nicotine was what drew you back to smoking. Therefore, we must eliminate your cravings for nicotine.
We will do this through a process of gradual reduction that will follow a mathematical algorithm.
The first thing that you need to do is to figure out how many cigarettes you smoke per day. This number is important, as it will be the starting point of our plan. You may be tempted here to just come up with an estimate, but I want you to be more precise than that.
You will start by taking a small piece of paper and taping it to your box of cigarettes so that you can make a simple marking with a pen for every time you smoke. You may also just carry a piece of paper around with you, but I find attaching it to the box to be more effective because you'll never be without it when you want to smoke. Do this for 1 week, then add up all of the cigarettes that you smoked all week. At the end of the week, divide the total number of cigarettes you smoked by 7 to get your average. If you are one of those people who smokes significantly more on the weekends or your days off, then it’s okay to calculate two separate averages.
Here’s the formula: Take the average number of cigarettes that you smoke per day and multiply that number by (.05). This will tell you how much 5% of the total amount of cigarettes that you smoke in a day is. If you smoke 10 cigarettes per day then 5% of that will be one half of a cigarette. For 30 cigarettes your number will be 1.5 cigarettes, and so on. It really doesn’t matter if you smoke 5 cigarettes per day or 40, you just need to know what 5% of that number is.
Once you have your numbers calculated you will start a gradual and consistent reduction in your smoking. You will do this in increments of 5% per week. This number will remain 5% of the original number of cigarettes that you smoked. If 5% of the original number of cigarettes that you smoked was 1 cigarette, then you will reduce your smoking by 1 cigarette per week, every week. Simple.
If your 5% number comes out to a fraction of a cigarette, for example ½ of a cigarette, then you will still reduce your smoking by that much. Simply take a pair of scissors and cut off half of a cigarette before you smoke it. Cutting the cigarette is important so that you are not able to smoke more than the program calls for. Also, I recommend that you cut all of the necessary cigarettes as soon as you get the pack. This will take some calculating in advance, but it will be worth it.
You will have to figure out what part of your day the cigarettes will be taken from. For starters you should pick a part of the day when you’re most busy so that you won’t be able to ruminate over the missing carcinogen.
Once you get down to about 1 cigarette per day, you may have to continue on with the gradual reduction by either progressing to ½ a cigarette per day, or 1 cigarette every other day, or even ½ of a cigarette every other day. The important part is that once you have quit, you will have quit for good. However gradual the process is in getting to quitting will be okay as long as it will lead you to total cessation of the habit.
Now that the plan for addressing the nicotine addiction is in place, we may formulate a plan for addressing the second challenge of quitting smoking. This is that in quitting smoking you will be deducting an activity from your life. Getting the subconscious mind to give up an activity that it is used to can be difficult unless you take the proper steps to help yourself along.
If you will be deducting from your life by quitting smoking, and quitting smoking becomes difficult as a result, then it follows that something ought to be added to your life for compensation purposes. What this something is will be up to you, but it needs to be an activity that's productive and enjoyable in some way. This may include reading, exercising, meditating, a new hobby, or simply devoting more quality time to your family. I find that activities which involve some form of exercise work best. Cigarettes stimulate the body and mind, and so does exercise, but in a much healthier way.
Choosing something healthy to add to your life in place of smoking will not only enrich your quality of life, it will make quitting much easier by addressing the needs of your subconscious mind. On the subconscious level you will feel less like you are at a loss and more like you have improved your general well being. The subconscious mind does not really care all that much about cigarettes being bad for you. It just cares that they bring you some level of pleasure, which is why you continue to smoke. You can help your subconscious mind feel less cheated by replacing the nicotine with something else that brings you joy.
It's also important to note that your change needs to be documented on paper through out the entire process. Keep a journal or a log detailing the number of cigarettes that you are allowed each day. This log should be small and mobile so that you can easily carry it with you in your pocket or purse.
Writing the process down on paper is important on two levels. The first is that it will allow you to keep an accurate count, and the second is that writing goals and procedures down on paper facilitates their accomplishment. If you take the time to write out a plan, you will be using more of your conscious power and your objective will thus have more energy behind it.
So there you have it, the easier way to quit smoking. Notice that I did not title the article, "The Easy Way To Quit Smoking". I used the word easier because no matter what our approach is, quitting permanently will take some effort on your part. I have found that anything in life worth accomplishing does take effort. I can promise you though that quitting smoking for good will be worth your effort in the long run. Not only will you improve your health, but the sense of pride you'll get from the accomplishment will be tremendous. You'll feel empowered and confident, ready to concur your next goal.
So go ahead, quit for good. You'll be glad you did!
About The Author Garrett Davis created http://www.guidanceforthemotivated.com/ to provide personal growth information to the motivated and intelligent. It is for those who consistently strive to improve. It is for the curious and the interested. It is for the non-complacent. It is for those who know that they always have room to grow, and for those who embrace infinite potential. Find more great articles at http://www.guidanceforthemotivated.com/
If you smoke and have been thinking about quitting, or have tried quitting, then this article is for you. If you don’t smoke, but have some other addiction, then I also encourage you to read this article, as it’s theory can be used to quit other substances as well.
Quitting smoking is not all that difficult, if done properly. So many people fail to quit because of a lack of proper planning. Fail to plan and you plan to fail, as the saying goes. So how will you go about getting away from those tasty cancer sticks for good? If executed with the proper plan, quitting will not be agonizing, though you will experience some discomfort.
I'll skip telling you about how bad cigarettes are for you because you already know. You are bombarded with that information constantly.
I won’t tell you that you need to try some new nicotine patch or gum, or some other pill. These products just give you more of what you don’t want: nicotine. They are just a way for the drug companies to make more money. Don’t let them sell you on these. Quitting smoking requires no purchases.
So many people fail to quit each year because of a lack of planning. "I’m going to quit smoking" is not a plan. Not at all. Most of the time it does not work. This is because it is the goal, not the plan. If everyone who ever said or thought that actually quit, their would be very, very few smokers in our society. In fact, I suspect that the tobacco industry would have been reduced to a negligible size altogether. However, the tobacco industry remains massive because people do not quit through a strategic plan. These people are the bread-and-butter of the cigarette manufacturers.
Quitting smoking presents a challenge for two reasons:
1) Nicotine withdrawals. Nicotine is everything to the tobacco industry. Without nicotine, cigarettes would be no more addictive than chewing gum.
2) Taking smoking out of your day will be taking out an activity that is associated with taking a break, relaxing, or interacting socially with other smokers.
If we will be successful, we will have to address both of these challenges with a rigorous plan, but before I get to that plan I will go over the mind-set that is required for permanent termination of your habit.
This mind-set is made up of 3 parts:
1. Know that you will quit smoking. Think about this one for a while. Get used to envisioning yourself as a non smoker.
2. Know that you will have to quit eventually, or accept the likelihood of the onset of a terminal disease.
3. Know that the sooner you quit, the easier it will be to do so.
Let’s go over that last one a little. Often, as a smoker, you will have a cigarette sooner rather than later simply to avoid the onset of a craving. Cravings can be quite uncomfortable, as any smoker will tell you. So, you become proactive in your approach in that you will have the cigarette before the craving becomes uncomfortable. If you have one now, then you won’t need one as badly later on, so your thinking goes.
The problem with this way of thinking is that it is exactly wrong. The nicotine has tricked your subconscious mind into such rationalizing. The reality is that each and every time you have a cigarette, you are reenforcing your addiction and thus making it stronger. If your cigarette smoking has resulted in an addiction, then it follows that with every cigarette you have you are increasing the addiction. In the long run, there is no such thing as having a cigarette to alleviate craving. Sure, you are making yourself feel satisfied by having the cigarette, but the satisfaction is temporary. With every cigarette you have, you will crave the next one that much more. This progression can be very subtle, which is why nicotine addiction can creep up on so many people. They become addicted before they know it.
>From this logic follows the required mind-set in which you will know that the sooner you quit, the easier it will be to do so. Never the less, you should not start the quitting process until you have mentally prepared yourself by mulling over all three steps for a while until you get used to them, with an emphasis on step #1. (Envisioning yourself as a non-smoker).
Now that we have the proper mind-set in place, we may go about formulating a plan for addressing your addiction to the drug itself (nicotine). If you've tried quitting in the past and failed, nicotine was what drew you back to smoking. Therefore, we must eliminate your cravings for nicotine.
We will do this through a process of gradual reduction that will follow a mathematical algorithm.
The first thing that you need to do is to figure out how many cigarettes you smoke per day. This number is important, as it will be the starting point of our plan. You may be tempted here to just come up with an estimate, but I want you to be more precise than that.
You will start by taking a small piece of paper and taping it to your box of cigarettes so that you can make a simple marking with a pen for every time you smoke. You may also just carry a piece of paper around with you, but I find attaching it to the box to be more effective because you'll never be without it when you want to smoke. Do this for 1 week, then add up all of the cigarettes that you smoked all week. At the end of the week, divide the total number of cigarettes you smoked by 7 to get your average. If you are one of those people who smokes significantly more on the weekends or your days off, then it’s okay to calculate two separate averages.
Here’s the formula: Take the average number of cigarettes that you smoke per day and multiply that number by (.05). This will tell you how much 5% of the total amount of cigarettes that you smoke in a day is. If you smoke 10 cigarettes per day then 5% of that will be one half of a cigarette. For 30 cigarettes your number will be 1.5 cigarettes, and so on. It really doesn’t matter if you smoke 5 cigarettes per day or 40, you just need to know what 5% of that number is.
Once you have your numbers calculated you will start a gradual and consistent reduction in your smoking. You will do this in increments of 5% per week. This number will remain 5% of the original number of cigarettes that you smoked. If 5% of the original number of cigarettes that you smoked was 1 cigarette, then you will reduce your smoking by 1 cigarette per week, every week. Simple.
If your 5% number comes out to a fraction of a cigarette, for example ½ of a cigarette, then you will still reduce your smoking by that much. Simply take a pair of scissors and cut off half of a cigarette before you smoke it. Cutting the cigarette is important so that you are not able to smoke more than the program calls for. Also, I recommend that you cut all of the necessary cigarettes as soon as you get the pack. This will take some calculating in advance, but it will be worth it.
You will have to figure out what part of your day the cigarettes will be taken from. For starters you should pick a part of the day when you’re most busy so that you won’t be able to ruminate over the missing carcinogen.
Once you get down to about 1 cigarette per day, you may have to continue on with the gradual reduction by either progressing to ½ a cigarette per day, or 1 cigarette every other day, or even ½ of a cigarette every other day. The important part is that once you have quit, you will have quit for good. However gradual the process is in getting to quitting will be okay as long as it will lead you to total cessation of the habit.
Now that the plan for addressing the nicotine addiction is in place, we may formulate a plan for addressing the second challenge of quitting smoking. This is that in quitting smoking you will be deducting an activity from your life. Getting the subconscious mind to give up an activity that it is used to can be difficult unless you take the proper steps to help yourself along.
If you will be deducting from your life by quitting smoking, and quitting smoking becomes difficult as a result, then it follows that something ought to be added to your life for compensation purposes. What this something is will be up to you, but it needs to be an activity that's productive and enjoyable in some way. This may include reading, exercising, meditating, a new hobby, or simply devoting more quality time to your family. I find that activities which involve some form of exercise work best. Cigarettes stimulate the body and mind, and so does exercise, but in a much healthier way.
Choosing something healthy to add to your life in place of smoking will not only enrich your quality of life, it will make quitting much easier by addressing the needs of your subconscious mind. On the subconscious level you will feel less like you are at a loss and more like you have improved your general well being. The subconscious mind does not really care all that much about cigarettes being bad for you. It just cares that they bring you some level of pleasure, which is why you continue to smoke. You can help your subconscious mind feel less cheated by replacing the nicotine with something else that brings you joy.
It's also important to note that your change needs to be documented on paper through out the entire process. Keep a journal or a log detailing the number of cigarettes that you are allowed each day. This log should be small and mobile so that you can easily carry it with you in your pocket or purse.
Writing the process down on paper is important on two levels. The first is that it will allow you to keep an accurate count, and the second is that writing goals and procedures down on paper facilitates their accomplishment. If you take the time to write out a plan, you will be using more of your conscious power and your objective will thus have more energy behind it.
So there you have it, the easier way to quit smoking. Notice that I did not title the article, "The Easy Way To Quit Smoking". I used the word easier because no matter what our approach is, quitting permanently will take some effort on your part. I have found that anything in life worth accomplishing does take effort. I can promise you though that quitting smoking for good will be worth your effort in the long run. Not only will you improve your health, but the sense of pride you'll get from the accomplishment will be tremendous. You'll feel empowered and confident, ready to concur your next goal.
So go ahead, quit for good. You'll be glad you did!
About The Author Garrett Davis created http://www.guidanceforthemotivated.com/ to provide personal growth information to the motivated and intelligent. It is for those who consistently strive to improve. It is for the curious and the interested. It is for the non-complacent. It is for those who know that they always have room to grow, and for those who embrace infinite potential. Find more great articles at http://www.guidanceforthemotivated.com/
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